Entries Tagged as 'Family'

My sister-in-law’s wedding flowers

June 30, 2015

A few days before Eric’s sister Kelley got married last month, I was asked to help with the wedding flowers, which she had planned to DIY. I love arranging flowers and I think DIY wedding flowers are awesome — I first learned they were A Thing when Julia decided to do hers — so I was very excited to help! Using the flowers Kelley had ordered, along with some hydrangeas and snapdragons we grabbed from the grocery store the morning of the wedding, I made nine bridesmaids bouquets and the bridal bouquet. Here’s how they turned out:

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All photos by La Candella Weddings

BuzzFeed: 24 Amazing Mothers-In-Law Who Defy Stereotypes

May 8, 2015

man i am today

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BuzzFeed: 21 Mother’s Day Gift Ideas That Aren’t Flowers

April 29, 2015

Because not all moms want stereotypical “lady” gifts.


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BuzzFeed: This Wedding Dress Has Been Worn By Three Generations Of Brides

February 15, 2015

Photo: David Eaton Photography

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Rooting in 2014

January 6, 2015

A few weeks ago, I was sitting in our apartment in a predominately black neighborhood, listening to Christmas jazz and reading the writing of Ida B. Wells. And I thought about my verb for 2014, and just felt so strongly that yes, I had lived my year with the “root” in mind.

Root: 1. to implant or establish deeply 2. to pull, tear, or dig up by the roots 3. to poke, pry, or search, as if to find something 4. to unearth; bring to light

The fact that this verb has two opposite meanings was part of why I chose it, and the tension between putting down roots and digging them out was present throughout my year, culminating in the decision to uproot my family to move to New York to really establish myself in my career. It wasn’t an easy decision, but it was (or, at least, it appears to have been) the right one. And that job was due, in no small part, to a post I published that felt incredibly true to my roots.

While my professional obligations meant I couldn’t do as much writing about race in 2014 as I had hoped, I still feel proud of the work I did, the things I read, and the stories I shared. And I know that that won’t end in 2015. I also got back to my roots in the more literal sense (see ya later, weave!), I rooted for someone else (Wendy Davis, bless her), and I spent a ton of time learning about and photographing flowers (which I loved). And Eric and I made our new family tree official when we jumped the broom.

I also dug into a my dad’s script right at the end of the year (like, the very end, the day after I was listening to Christmas music and thinking about my verb). While there’s a lot more to come on that front, I can say that things started to happen in a really beautiful and mysterious way within 24 hours of thinking that that was the last big thing I needed to check off for 2014.

In 2014, I read more, I wrote more, I explored a lot of the cool/weird things I loved when I was younger, I wrote about the things I love earnestly, I had to start wearing my glasses again. In other words, I did and celebrated all the things that have always felt like the most me things, and I did them without really wondering or caring whether these things matched other people’s vision of me. I hadn’t really planned or expected to get in touch with my roots this way in 2014, or thought of roots as being about my own strength and confidence, but that was another way my verb shaped by year.

One of my favorite scenes in The Time Traveler’s Wife (one of my favorite books!) is the day of Henry and Claire’s wedding, when Henry realizes that he doesn’t look like he should in his wedding photo (which he’s already seen in the future), so he goes and gets his long hair cut short. The line about him seeing his new haircut says something like “and suddenly, I am the man of my future.” That’s how I felt repeatedly during 2014…it was the year when suddenly my past completely connected with my future.

BuzzFeed: 36 Families Whose Resemblance Can’t Be Denied

December 26, 2014

Freaking genes, man.

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BuzzFeed: Here’s What You Should Make Your Family This Christmas

December 13, 2014

Even if you aren’t crafty!

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Fourth of July weekend

July 8, 2014

Eric and I made the 12.5-hour drive to Missouri on Wednesday to spend the Fourth of July weekend in the Ozarks with his family at his aunt and uncle’s cabin. The drive went surprisingly fast and we passed the first few hours taking turns selecting a song to listen to. It was a 90s and 2000s rapstravaganza and it was pretty great. I also spotted something called “Doritos JACKED” in one of the gas stations where we stopped. What even…are they caffeinated? I really hope they are caffeinated Doritos.


Eric has been going to this golf resort with his family since he was a kid, and it’s really special to all of them. I can see why; it’s beautiful and peaceful. All the little cabins and lush greenery make it feel like Disney made a summer camp for adults. (Bonus: the weather was perfect for the entire weekend!) Eric has a lot of great memories of his trips there growing up, and I love being a part of the newer ones! 

4th of July

After we arrived, we went to Wal-mart to pick up a few items and spotted those amazing T-shirts. I’d already packed a lot of (OK…strictly) red, white, and blue attire, so  I tried to convince Eric to get the wolf shirt. I may have said, “I will divorce you if you do not buy this T-shirt” and he eventually agreed…but then backed out when it became apparent that it was a woman’s T-shirt. “It will look funny on me,” he said. Yes—the way the shoulders fit would be the reason the shirt looked ridiculous. 

Eric and I did most of the organizing for this trip, which was a first for us/his family. Taking a more active role in planning it felt like a new married thing to do, and I really liked that. I said I’d take the lead on making most of the foodstuffs, so when Eric’s parents arrived on Thursday, we went to the grocery store with his mom my MOTHER-IN-LAW (!!!) to get everything we needed for the weekend. Here were the food highlights from the weekend: 

Grilled sausages, peppers, and onions on rolls

Fruit salad with vanilla pudding mix

Banana split bar + several different types of crushed cookies/candy in addition to the standard toppings

BBQ pulled pork (I opted for a Crock Pot recipe so no one had to worry about cooking all day/manning the grill.)

My grandma’s potato salad (This was a big deal, as my grandma’s potato salad is legendary in my family. It was my first time making it, and while I don’t think I did it justice, it was really well received.) 

Banana pudding (I actually totally outdid my grandma on this one; it was delicious.)

We also drove for 30 minutes to a nearby town with his aunt and uncle to get donuts on Friday morning, and they were really good.

4th of July

Aside from cooking and eating, we took a bunch of beautiful walks (with bunnies! and deer!), went out on a boat, went to the pool (me), played a lot of golf (Eric), and lamented the fact that the prison tour was sold out. (Next year though!!) Oh, and Indiana met his first cat! He was woofing at Eric’s aunt and uncle’s cat so we let decided to let him go check her out. When he ran toward her, she puffed up huge and hissed at him; he looked completely terrified and sprinted away at full speed. Even after she had walked away (muttering “Cats rule, dogs drool” I assume), he still had to be coaxed upstairs. 


While most people in Michigan head “up North” for every three-day weekend, that was never something my family did, and most summer holidays just consisted of us grilling at home. And that’s fun and all, but it was never something to get pumped about. This was the first year where I actually did something special and I…kinda see what all the fuss was about! I even liked the fireworks! (Normally, I feel about fireworks about like I do about Doritos JACKED: just…WHY BOTHER?!?!) I’d call this a solid first Fourth of July as a married couple.

A wedding weekend in Kansas

June 7, 2014

Eric and I drove to Kansas last weekend for his cousin’s wedding. We don’t see his family very often so I’m happy that we’ve already gotten to see them twice this year. Here are a few highlights from the trip…

A plane on the runway at Stearman Field.

Having a drink at Stearman Field Bar & Grill, which is a cool new(ish) restaurant that sits right next to the runway.

The old barn behind the house Eric’s parents just bought/moved into.

A selection of our donuts from The Donut Whole in Wichita. (Not pictured: a dozen more donuts.)

Outside the church in Victoria.

The pretty interior of St. Fidelis aka “The Cathedral of the Plains.”

Victoria, KS.

The place to be at the reception. 

Lover.ly: How to Avoid Mama Drama When Planning Your Wedding

May 5, 2014

“While wedding planning brings some brides and their mothers closer together, your relationship with your mom can also be a huge source of stress when you’re planning your wedding. Here are four common mother-of-the-bride behaviors you might experience and our advice on how to handle them.”

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