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December 17, 2017

It feels like so much happened this week! We had our work holiday party and I had one of the top three worst hangovers of my entire life. (I had three cocktails. LIKE. I don’t… that’s not… I’m confused?) Meanwhile, work was busy and the world was still pretty bad (even though Doug Jones won!) and I spent a good amount of time under a pile of extremely soft throw blankets in my safe and cozy apartment.

(^Me with three of my five wonderful direct reports.)

Here’s what else I was up to…


How To Spend Christmas Alone

17 Great Gifts For The Tiny Young Feminist In Your Life

And in case you’re still shopping, I’ll re-up two other gift guides I wrote:

21 Legitimately Great Gifts To Give Your Boyfriend, Husband, Brother, Or Dad

23 Practical Gifts For People Who Are Hard To Shop For


Here’s this week’s TWIM.


This Moment Isn’t (Just) About Sex. It’s Really About Work., The Cut. “A woman who is harassed, or who is in a workplace where other women are, might feel vividly the full weight of the system that’s not set up with her in mind, and see with clarity how much more difficult her professional path will be at every turn, how success might not be on her terms, but on terms set by powerful men. She might feel shame, or embarrassment that worms its way into her head, affects her confidence. She will likely spend time and energy focusing on how to maneuver around the harasser, time and energy that might otherwise be spent on her own advancement.” This is really, really good.

This Is The Daily Stormer’s Playbook, Huffington Post.

Sexual Harassment Training Doesn’t Work. But Some Things Do., The New York Times.

Harvey Weinstein Is My Monster Too, The New York Times.

Are Private Schools Immoral?, The Atlantic.

How New York Times Reporters Broke Hollywood’s Biggest Sexual Harassment Story, Variety. “The stories that are coming out about these predators are so depressing. Has it taken a toll? Kantor: It’s an honor to do this work.”

How the Alabama Senate Election Sanctified Black Women Voters, The New Yorker. “Her lack of power and ego makes her the right arbiter of justice. Materially, though, she is ignored, and her efforts to safeguard her own welfare are instead regarded as efforts toward a national salvation. She is of America only because she works for it.”

Dear Male Chefs: Talk Less, Bon Appétit.

The end of American prison visits: jails end face-to-face contact – and families suffer, The Guardian.

Shopping Helped Me Reinvent Myself After Abuse, Racked. “In this case, after the violence that was loving Brad, changing my appearance was more than an upgrade; it was a metamorphosis. A magical first awakening into a body that was controlled by my desires, and mine alone.”

What a Cross-Dressing Lady Knight Taught Me About Gender and Sexuality, Electric Lit. This is so lovely.

How Marie Tussaud Created a Wax Empire, Smithsonian.

All of my 2017 book recommendations, Ask a Manager. Added a bunch of these to my wishlist.

It Feels Awful Because It’s Awful, Anne T. Donahue. “Sometimes things are just fucking bad. And a fun night can be the reprieve from the reality of things being shit. It is fine and acceptable to feel like shit. It is fine and acceptable to be like, “I cannot go to that party tonight because honestly, I just don’t want to be around that many people right now.” It is fine and acceptable to cocoon and to admit that no, right now, you do NOT have the bandwidth to deal with anything but The Thing, and if someone wants to reach out, that’s wicked, but if not, honestly, what can you do. It is fine and acceptable to be choosy about who you can be around and talk to and commiserate with. All of it is fine and acceptable. Sometimes you don’t get to be taken out of the moment, you get to be distracted for a second, and then return to it because it is your reality right now. And that’s fine. I think for as much as we talk about joy and mindfulness and staying positive, I also think we need to talk about the value in being and feeling the opposite: you still have to go to work and eat your meals and be alive, but you are also allowed to exist in a realm where You Are Fucking Dealing With Something, So Fuck Off, Please and Thank You.” Wow, hi, yes. This approach is basically how I’ve gotten through the past two years.

A Winter Guide to NYC, A Cup of Jo.

100 Times Women Were Fucking Hilarious On Twitter In 2017, BuzzFeed.

The 2017 Hater’s Guide To The Williams-Sonoma Catalog, Deadspin.

Best life

This is legitimately the best Christmas playlist I’ve ever listened to.

Here’s the jumpsuit I wore to the holiday party.

I’m really loving the new rosemary mint candle I bought at Target. (I can’t seem to find it online, but it looks like this.) 

I made a Twitter thread of all my favorite Christmas motifs.

And I learned how to use Instagram Stories Highlights and posted a Christmas decor apartment tour! (My Insta handle is the_rewm.)


This thread, a Sesame Street fellowship for writers of color, and this tweet.

The week ahead…

I’ve got lots of posts to write and gifts to wrap! BYE!

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