Make America Rape Again

October 7, 2016

Friendly reminder: if you think approaching women and then kissing them before they have a chance to object or to consent is remotely acceptable behavior, you’re part of the problem.

If you think that grabbing women you don’t know and who have not consented “by the pussy” — like, I don’t know, we’re god damn BOWLING BALLS — is remotely acceptable behavior, you’re part of the problem.

If you think that bragging about committing battery/sexual assault is just standard locker room talk, and if you’d simply laugh if someone made these comments in front of you instead of condemning it for the rapey, fucked-up, actually illegal behavior that it is, you’re part of the problem.

If you don’t understand why, after decades of being told how to protect ourselves from predators and being blamed for the crimes men commit against our bodies, women would hear anything but red flags and alarm bells and DANGER! DANGER! DANGER! in Trump’s comments, you’re part of the problem.

If you are a grown-ass adult who is still using the phrase “boys will be boys” in the year 2016, you are part of the problem.

If you’re one of the men who has slipped a hand under my dress in a bar or in a crowded van on the way to a fraternity–sorority event — one of the many men who literally believes, like Donald Trump, they can do anything they want to women, including grabbing women like me ~by the pussy~, because you think you’re entitled to everything you want and also sometimes forget that women are actually people — or if you’re embarrassed and ashamed because you’ve said or done or witnessed similar things and so your instinct is to jump in and defend Trump’s statements and his behavior (or to just quietly say nothing and hope no one asks you what you think which it seems like is a lot of people’s preferred route tonight) please remember that one incredible way to right that wrong is to take a stance against that behavior NOW. It’s not too late for you to stop perpetuating rape culture. Until you do that, you are normalizing this behavior and ensuring it will continue to exist, and that makes you part of the problem.

If you think that not voting or voting third party means you’re somehow better than people who are voting for Trump, A) it doesn’t, and B) holy shit, you are part of the problem.

If you haven’t watched the videos of Trump’s supporters and then thought long and hard, with an open mind and an open heart, about what it would be like to be a brown person, or a queer person, or a woman, or a Muslim person, or a disabled person, or an immigrant, or a trans person, or a Jewish person OR ALL OF THE ABOVE in Trump’s America — if you haven’t wanted to do that because it would make you FEEL SOME THINGS and you would simply rather not — you are part of the problem.

If you’re not with her, you’re not with any of us, and you are part of the problem.

If you aren’t actively against Donald Trump in word and in deed — even when it’s inconvenient, even when it’s tiring, even when it requires you to have uncomfortable conversations with people you care about and respect and love, even when it’s easier to say it would be pointless anyway, even when it means going through the painful process of examining your own upbringing, past behavior, and deeply-held beliefs, even if you’re worried that means that your masculinity may be attacked or it might cost you friends, even if you’re worried it means some woman who you don’t like might get something you don’t think she deserves, even if it’s HARD and EXHAUSTING and you don’t WANNA because TALKING about POLITICS is STRESSFUL and OH MY GOD HAVE I MISSED ANY EXCUSES FROM THE ENCYCLOPEDIA OF STRAIGHT WHITE MALE BULLSHIT PROBABLY CERTAINLY BUT FORGIVE ME FOR I’VE BLACKED OUT FROM THE RAGE — you are part of the fucking problem.

Do better.

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