The week in review

September 25, 2016


Photo by Taylor Miller; had the necklace made here.

Hello and happy Sunday! I’m back in action after losing all of last weekend to a horrible cold. When I wasn’t playing Whack-a-Mole with racists on Facebook or breaking in my new fall booties, here’s what I was up to this week…


I Learned To Love Cottage Cheese & So Can You

My Food Diary, Re-Written by a Celebrity Features Writer

So A Special Sleeping Bra Exists And It’s Less Bad Than You’d Think

9 Things That Will Take Your Bed To The Next Level

Exactly What Was Wrong With The First 50 Hot Selfies I Took But Did Not Send


Hillary Clinton for President, The New York Times. “This endorsement would also be an empty exercise if it merely affirmed the choice of Clinton supporters. We’re aiming instead to persuade those of you who are hesitating to vote for Mrs. Clinton — because you are reluctant to vote for a Democrat, or for another Clinton, or for a candidate who might appear, on the surface, not to offer change from an establishment that seems indifferent and a political system that seems broken. Running down the other guy won’t suffice to make that argument. The best case for Hillary Clinton cannot be, and is not, that she isn’t Donald Trump. The best case is, instead, about the challenges this country faces, and Mrs. Clinton’s capacity to rise to them.” This endorsement so thoughtful and well-done.

Hating Trump isn’t enough – we need to talk about why Clinton rules, The Guardian.

No, I’m from New York, The New Yorker. Literally laughed out loud through this whole thing.

Donald Trump Either Lied to Republicans or Broke the Law, Newsweek.

Ask Polly: Why Do Women Obsess About Babies and Fertility?, NY Mag. One of my faves this week.

Brangelina Is Dead; Long Live Angelina, BuzzFeed.

15 Career Tips From Smart Women, A Cup of Jo.

Men, Please Throw Away Your Crappy Old Pillows, MEL.

I Regret Not Telling My Hair Stylist That Her Service Was Poor, Beautifully Brown. This describes my hairdresser so perfectly, it’s a little eerie.

Me, A Chill Girl With No Feelings, Gabby Boyd on Medium. “Vulnerability is not very chill, and leads a person to start requesting luxuries, like communication and effort.”

My teen boys are blind to rape culture, The Washington Post. Oof. 

He Had His Reasons, Granta. This is fantastic. (Head’s up that it discusses murder, domestic violence, and suicide.)

How to Be a Writer: 10 Tips from Rebecca Solnit, Literary Hub. These are great tips; I need to re-read them like once a week.

17 Things No One Tells You About Being On Jeopardy!, BuzzFeed.

“I Hurt With Her,” She Said & I Took Note, Hands Free Mama. Pay no attention to me sobbing in a bodega reading this.

Rest Of Nation To Penn State: ‘Something Is Very Wrong With All Of You’, The Onion. This is perfect.

Fear of a Female President, The Atlantic. “Standard commentary about Clinton’s candidacy—which focuses on her email server, the Benghazi attack, her oratorical deficiencies, her struggles with ‘authenticity’—doesn’t explain the intensity of this opposition. But the academic literature about how men respond to women who assume traditionally male roles does. And it is highly disturbing.”

30 Of The Gayest Pictures Of LGBT People As Kids, BuzzFeed. It’s basically impossible not to smile when reading this.

I Drank Butter Coffee For A Month And It Was More Magical Than I Expected, BuzzFeed.

Trump used $258,000 from his charity to settle legal problems, The Washington Post.

‘The Condition of Black Life Is One of Mourning’, The New York Times Magazine. Set my subway tears in motion after a particularly rough week.

Hillary Clinton’s ‘Angry’ Face, The New York Times.

This Featherless Lovebird Is Actually So, So Cute, BuzzFeed. It me.

Fall Is the Worst Season, Jezebel. Terrible opinion, excellent writing.


Samantha Bee and Seth Meyers, the hoes who use the dog filter (I FEEL SO SEEN BY THIS?!), this thread, this tweet, and Joseph Gordon-Levitt at BuzzFeed.

The week ahead…

Screaming at the TV during the debate, most likely.

The week in review

September 11, 2016

Smash the Patriarchy

Embroidery & photo by MoonriseWhims; buy it here.

HELLO! Here’s what I got up to this week…


The World Is Shit, So Here’s A Little Feel-Good Routine


How Hillary Clinton can get that ‘presidential look’, The Washington Post. This is AMAZING; Alexandra Petri is such a gem.

The 24-Year-Old Coca-Cola Virgin, Eater. I loved every word of this.

When Detectives Dismiss Rape Reports Before Investigating Them, BuzzFeed. This is truly outrageous.

You Can Write Your Way Out of an Emotional Funk. Here’s How., The Science of Us.

Emily Charlton — The Devil Wears Prada Erotic Fan Fiction, Amanda Rosenberg on Medium.

16 Simple Ways To Be More Productive And Actually Get Shit Done, BuzzFeed. Some really good tips here. 

Colin Kaepernick’s Protest Has Nothing to Do With the Military, The Nation.

How Donald Trump retooled his charity to spend other people’s money, The Washington Post. 

Jason Pierre-Paul Is Suing ESPN Because Its Reporting Was Too Accurate, Deadspin.

How Arianna Huffington Lost Her Newsroom and The Inside Story of Why Arianna Huffington Left the Huffington Post, Vanity Fair.

Why Doesn’t Keeping Up With the Kardashians Show the Nannies?, NY Mag.

How Phyllis Schlafly’s Legacy Paved the Way for Today’s Ann Coulters, Jezebel. 

How Elizabeth Holmes’s House of Cards Came Tumbling Down, Vanity Fair. This is WILD.

We recommend Hillary Clinton for president, Dallas Morning News.

When Will New York City Sink?, NY Mag.

I also re-read Gone Girl this weekend, so obviously I am a peach to be around right now.

The week ahead…

Thinking about finally buying some booties!

The week in review

September 4, 2016

This week, I experienced the most incredible NYC sunset, shared the collective outrage at Anthony Weiner and the dipshit writer of that godawful headphones article, got a press package from Bath & Body Works containing no less than seven different pumpkin fragrances (?!?!), fiiiiinally ordered new glasses from Warby Parker after picking a pair out at the D.C. store back in February, and received my first-ever emails from Chelsea from Thinx!!! Here’s what else I got up to…


FYI, I Have Loved Fall Since Like Forever


So, I set aside Sweetbitter briefly (it was…not hard to put down) so I could read The Underground Railroad. I read it in one sitting on Saturday. It is gripping, spooky, upsetting, and will stick with me for a very long time. Definitely recommend it.

So, You Must Talk to the Woman Who Is Wearing Headphones, The Washington Post.

How To Talk To A Woman Even Though She’s A Ghost, BuzzFeed.

I Have Decided to Marry My Catcaller and Here is Our Wedding Registry, McSweeney’s.

How To Talk To A Woman In A Diabetic Coma, Very Smart Brothas.

Also still laughing at this very good Tweet and this one.

The Real Trumpettes of Bel Air, Politico.

The Perilous Lure of the Underground Railroad, The New Yorker.

Stop Blaming Huma for Her Husband’s Epic Fail(s), A Practical Wedding. “Weiner had one goddamn job.”

Stop Trying to Make Anthony Weiner’s Sexting a Political Issue, New York Magazine.

There’s never been a better time to watch the beguiling Anthony Weiner documentary Weiner, Vox. Also this tweet about Weiner made me laugh out loud.

Why Am I So Fat?, Sara Benincasa on Medium.

How Fox News Women Took Down Roger Ailes, New York Magazine.

Framed, LA Times. I knew the bare bones of this story already but OMG this whole thing is so gripping.

Shit happens: I spent two terrible weeks on a Kardashian-endorsed ‘teatox’, Fusion.

The Comfort of a Digital Confidante, The Atlantic. “Perhaps, then, that Instagram shot or confessional tweet isn’t always meant to evoke some mythical, pretend version of ourselves, but instead seeks to invoke the imagined perfect audience—the non-existent people who will see us exactly as we want to be seen. We are not curating an ideal self, but rather, an ideal Other, a fantasy in which our struggle to become ourselves is met with the utmost empathy.”

What happens when sexual assault happens on a long-haul flight., Slate.

The Distinct Pleasure of the House Dress, Racked. I’m not currently a house dress person, but they make a good case.

Huma Abedin Doesn’t Have To Be “The Good Wife” Anymore, BuzzFeed.

Adult Learning: How to break the pattern of dating Man-babies, She Does the City. Oh…oh this is good.

23 Really Funny Tumblr Posts That Are Just About, Like, Life, BuzzFeed.

Not All Men? Well, actually…, Alicen Grey on Medium.

Oops I Made A Feminist Joke On The Internet, Sara Schaefer on Medium.

The Long-Lasting Legacy of the Great Migration, Smithsonian Magazine. Great piece by the author of The Warmth of Other Sons, which I highly recommend.

The Most Exclusive Restaurant in America, The New Yorker. I saw this post going around last weekend and didn’t really connect with the hed, but after two friends recommended it, I decided to read it and I’m SO glad I did. Totally bizarre/fascinating!

Why sons hold marriages together, 1843.

Elizabeth Smart Is Standing Up for Rape Victims—And Tearing Down Purity Culture, Broadly.

‘Birth of a Nation’ actress Gabrielle Union: I cannot take Nate Parker rape allegations lightly, LA Times.

Patriotism is for Black People: Colin Kaepernick, Donald Trump and the Selectivity of White Rage, Tim Wise. “It has always been thus: Patriotism is for black people, meaning that it is they (or perhaps other immigrants of color) who are expected to show gratitude, to ignore the nation’s flaws, to sign off on America’s greatness without reservation, because anything less is presumptive evidence of disloyalty. And it makes sense, really. After all, when your nation was built by the deliberate oppression of black and brown peoples, the exploitation of their labor, and the theft of indigenous land — and anyone who would deny this is insufficiently educated to be taken seriously — it is especially vital to police their devotion and fealty to the edifice that marginalized them; to punish them for any deviation. Because to allow them the space to criticize, to condemn, and to castigate, is to allow them the space to organize, and to fight, and to transform.”

Insulting Colin Kaepernick says more about our patriotism than his, Kareem Abdul-Jabbar in the Washington Post. “What should horrify Americans is not Kaepernick’s choice to remain seated during the national anthem, but that nearly 50 years after Ali was banned from boxing for his stance and Tommie Smith and John Carlos’s raised fists caused public ostracization and numerous death threats, we still need to call attention to the same racial inequities. Failure to fix this problem is what’s really un-American here.”

Colin Kaepernick’s True Sin, The Atlantic. “And so Kaepernick’s detractors, when they are not insisting his protest is unpatriotic, or disrespectful to the military, mock his background, upbringing, and success. Photos of Kaepernick with his adoptive parents, mocking the idea that Kaepernick is ‘oppressed,’ have been widely shared on social media. (The notion that Kaepernick’s proximity to whiteness renders him less ‘oppressed’ is less a rebuttal of Kaepernick’s point than an unequivocal affirmation.)”

Also this Tweet.

Trapped in Tollbooths, and Targets of Harassment, The New York Times.

We All Scream for Ice Cream, The New Yorker.

19 Tweets That Will Speak To You If You Think People Are The Worst, BuzzFeed.

One of the Most Important Crosswords in New York Times History, Slate.

How to Tell a Mother Her Child Is Dead, The New York Times. “If she asks you, you will tell her what you know. You do not lie. But do not say he was murdered or he was killed. Yes, I know that he was, but that is not what you say. You say that he died; that is the part that you saw and that you know. When she asks if he felt any pain, you must be very careful. If he did not, you assure her quickly. If he did, you do not lie. But his pain is over now. Do not ever say he was lucky that he did not feel pain. He was not lucky. She is not lucky. Don’t make that face. The depth of the stupidity of the things you will say sometimes is unimaginable.”

Killer Robots Are Coming And These People Are Trying To Stop Them, BuzzFeed.

I Just Have a Few Questions About Last Night’s VMAs, This whole thing is just gold.

Entertained by

Congratulations,” this perfect parody of food blogging, if Disney princesses were on The Bachelor, Weiner, this Tweet and this one, You’re the Worst (I’m re-watching the first two seasons because I love it so), and a stock video of a woman counting.

The week ahead…

At the behest of my friend Rachel Sanders, I will be experiencing life without a top sheet for the first time ever.

The week in review

August 28, 2016

Patch & photo by Hand Over Your Fairy Cakes; buy it here.

HI! Just taking a brief break from my vagenda of manocide to share the best stuff from this week!


This week I finished The Nest (really great writing, but I really didn’t like the ending) and Modern Lovers (very good all the way through), and now I’m starting Sweetbitter, which my friend Rachel described as “absolutely horrible writing, but I couldn’t put it down.”

Today’s Vagenda, Sara Schaefer on Medium. “1:30 pm. Doctor’s appointment — ask about ‘pleasure abortions.’ Do they do group packages? Alison’s birthday is coming up. 2:55 pm. Retail therapy; there’s a sale at Michael’s. Purchase 37 mason jars. Text Jenny for her scrotum-infused kombucha recipe. Commit vehicular manocide in the parking lot. Text while driving; tell the internet mob they can stop — you’ve just killed the man you falsely accused of rape.”

The Uber Killer: The Real Story of One Night of Terror, GQ. This is just chilling.

Inside Glossier, The Beauty Startup That Just Happens To Sell Makeup, BuzzFeed.

The Exact Moment Amal Clooney Realized She Settled, The Cut.

98 Photos From My Camera Roll That Will Make You Say “Jen, That’s Way Too Many Pictures Of John Stamos”, BuzzFeed.

This style guide from 2007 proves Nick Denton’s blog invented web writing, Insider. Very good writing advice here.

The writing class I’d like to teach, Signal v. Noise.

The Charmed Life of Pandora, Racked.

Black Health Matters, The New York Times. “All the rage and mourning and angst works to exhaust you; it eats you alive with its relentlessness. These slayings obey no humane logic. They force you to reconcile your own helplessness in the face of such brutal injustice, and the terrifying reality that it could happen to you, or someone you hold dear.”

The bizarre true story behind the “this is a work of fiction” disclaimer, Slate. The most interesting thing about this to me is that a female researcher tried to stop them from getting sued, and they didn’t listen to her…and then they got sued.

The Age of Post-Truth Politics, The New York Times.

From the attic to the Smithsonian: black history museum is full of ‘found’ items, The Guardian.

Inside Facebook’s (Totally Insane, Unintentionally Gigantic, Hyperpartisan) Political-Media Machine, The New York Times.

Fat Shaming is Not an Individual Problem, It’s a Cultural One, Lesley Kinzel on Medium. “Certainly, beauty standards and body shaming affect and hurt all women. But they hurt fat women in ways that are different and far more specific and debilitating than women who are not fat, with measurable impacts ranging from the psychological to the economic. ‘It’s okay to be curvy but nobody should be obese.’ Choke on that trash before you ever say it again. Effectively supporting women who fight against fat shaming means supporting all women who are in the battle, even the women who make you most uncomfortable. Especially those women. Shaming comments do not get less damaging the fatter a person is; it’s actually the other way around. The women who need your support the most are also the ones least likely to get it.” Choke. On. That. Trash.

Entertained by

Mr. Reed, David Cross on date rape (an oldie but a goodie!), this tweet and this one, this actual hero, and this Black Girl magic.

The week ahead…

Keeping my eye on the prize: the three-day weekend!

The week in review

August 21, 2016


Hi, guys! Besides hanging out with a chill Pomeranian named Boots at a pool party, here’s what I got up to this week…


Guys, We Need To Talk About Pooping & Farting In Romantic Relationships

Can You Get Through This Post Without Yelling “What The FUCK, People?!”

Here’s How To Use A Bullet Journal For Better Mental Health


I finished reading The Girls this weekend and am going to start The Nest tonight.

Enjoli by Kristi Coulter on Medium. “Is it really that hard, being a First World woman? Is it really so tough to have the career and the spouse and the pets and the herb garden and the core strengthening and the oh-I-just-woke-up-like-this makeup and the face injections and the Uber driver who might possibly be a rapist? Is it so hard to work ten hours for your rightful 77% of a salary, walk home past a drunk who invites you to suck his cock, and turn on the TV to hear the men who run this country talk about protecting you from abortion regret by forcing you to grow children inside your body? I mean, what’s the big deal? Why would anyone want to soften the edges of this glorious reality?”

Did I Kill Gawker?, New York Magazine. This is fantastic.

Dee Dee Wanted Her Daughter To Be Sick, Gypsy Wanted Her Mom To Be Murdered, BuzzFeed. This. Is. Wild.

The Era of ‘The Bitch’ Is Coming, The Atlantic.

Quiz: What Garden of Earthly Delights Abomination Are You?, Dirge. I laughed out loud.

The Science of How and Why We Swear, Gizmodo.

In U.S. Jails, a Constitutional Clash Over Air-Conditioning, The New York Times.

This Is What’s Missing From Journalism Right Now, Mother Jones.

Fighting Frizz? Then You Should’ve Put a Shower Cap on It, The New York Times. I went into this being like BLACK WOMEN HAVE BEEN DOING THIS FOR YEARS, NEW YORK TIMES. But then I learned about turban shower caps so I’m not mad anymore.

Nate Parker’s Alleged Rape And The Limits of Hollywood Damage Control, BuzzFeed.

How Nate Parker’s Rape Charges Divided Penn State’s Campus, BuzzFeed.

Nate Parker and the Limits of Empathy, The New York Times.

Asked and Answered: “This country needs more spunk.” I…legitimately wept when reading this letter.

19 Of The Funniest “Roses Are Red…” Tweets, BuzzFeed. You’re welcome.

Entertained by

Ali Wong’s standup special on Netflix. This episode of Death, Sex, and Money. The second story, “The Girl Died,” is just…wow. Also this story and this story from The Moth. Oh, and Deanna G. Carter, subway hero.

The week ahead…

Still staring at this tweet probably.

The week in review

August 14, 2016

Photo by Matt Crump

Photo: Matt Crump (buy a print here)

Here’s what I was up to this week when I wasn’t complaining about the weather or weeping over Simones Biles and Manuel…


16 Times “You In Danger, Girl” Is The Only Correct Response


I re-read Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban, which I’m pretty sure I haven’t read since high school. I’d always thought of it as my favorite of the series, and this re-reading confirmed that.

The Justice Department’s stunning report on the Baltimore Police Department, The Washington Post. I…thought I could not be shocked my racism anymore. I was wrong! I felt physically ill by the time I finished reading this.

I Was the One Who Bought George Zimmerman’s Gun., McSweeney’s. Amazing.

A Celebration of the Beautiful, Lightly Deranged PR Emails We Get From Period Undie-Makers Thinx, Jezebel.

Why Do So Many Men Whisper ‘Hey’ After Fucking You?, Jezebel.

This Is Katie F—ing Ledecky: A Thesis About Kicking Ass, Grantland.

Face Masks: Everything You’ve Always Wanted To Know (And Also Some Stuff You Didn’t), Man Repeller. “If you’re like me (and for your sake, I hope you’re not), only four things in this world keep you going: friends, family, career fulfillment and spending 10-12 hours a week reading online testimonials from British and Korean teenagers about face masks. I spend all of my free time, and, by some miracle, most of my ‘work’ time, participating in the tight-knit international community of cold goo enthusiasts.” This author, is SO funny; you will not regret signing up for her Tiny Letter here.

Donald Trump and the Long History of White Men Claiming Fraud, New York Magazine.

LIT History: Meet the real women behind the upcoming film ‘Hidden Figures’, Blavity. I am so excited to read this book next month when it comes out and to see this movie!

Flint is Family,

I’m Latino. I’m Hispanic. And they’re different, so I drew a comic to explain., Vox.

The Bullet Journal Works Because It Soothes Your Panicky Mind, The Science of Us.

Inside The Craziest, Raunchiest, Most Politically Incorrect Animated Comedy Ever, BuzzFeed.

Simone Biles Vs. The Racists: Are Black Gymnasts The New Black QBs?, Deadspin.

Love the Fig, The New Yorker. “Although many people dismiss figs as a geriatric delicacy or the sticky stuff inside bad cookies, they are, in fact, something awesome: enclosed flowers that bloom modestly inward, unlike the flamboyant showoffs on other plants. Bite a fig in half and you’ll discover a core of tiny blossoms.” Um, and also wasp mummies?! IDK science is incredible, you guys…just read it.

Things Not Even Tolerated by the World: Christians and Hypocrisy, Samantha Field. (Further reading: The Crucifixion and #NeverTrump: What the Cross Teaches us About Politics.)

What We Learned About Trump’s Supporters This Week, The New Yorker.

What It Means to Smell Like a Man, MEL Magazine.

Donald Trump is a parody of American manhood — and that’s what lifts him, The L.A. Times.

Why Women Are Living in the Discomfort Zone, The Wall Street Journal.

22 Amazing Photos Of Female Olympians Screaming Their Fucking Heads Off, BuzzFeed.

This Guy’s Tweet To A Female Cyclist Is The Ultimate In Mansplaining, BuzzFeed.

Martha Karolyi and her husband, Bela, were great coaches. They also allegedly beat their gymnasts., Slate.

17 Olympic Gymnasts From 1908 Who Will Make You Say “Yeah, I Could Probably Do That”, BuzzFeed.

27 Pictures Make You Way Happier Than They Should, BuzzFeed.


The mozzarella stuffed rosemary and Parmesan soft pretzels. Too bad my kitchen is like 95 degrees!


These letters to HRC, this wise woman, this perfect burn, this incredible embroidery, everything pictured in this home tour, this excellent tweet (I LOLd), and Hillary Clinton, meme queen.

The week ahead…

Trying not to fucking melt, obviously.

The week in review

August 7, 2016

enamel pins

(“R” and heart pin from Pintrill, envelope pin from Indie Olive, Ouija board pin from Garbage Humans — it’s sold out but I’m told it will be back in a week or so.)

Heyoh! Here’s what I had going on this week…


8 Life-Changing Things To Try In August

25 Tweets Everyone Who Hates Wearing A Bra Will Relate To


Harry Potter and the Cursed Child. :-/

At Celebrity Boot Camp, $4,100 Gets You 6 Almonds, New York Mag. So good!

#HillaryCoverageIsCrap, Blue Nation Review.

What My Divorce Taught Me About Latent Sexism In The Financial System, Bust. Oh…my god. RAGE.

The Bed-Rest Hoax, Harper’s. “Through some combination of ignorance and wishful thinking, bed rest survives. In 2009, a young woman named Samantha Burton experienced symptoms of preterm labor fifteen weeks before her due date and went voluntarily to Tallahassee Memorial Hospital. She was seen by a doctor who told her that she would have to be admitted and remain in bed. Burton, who had two small children, agreed to rest but wanted to go home. She also wanted a second opinion. The doctor told her that she would not be allowed to leave and initiated legal proceedings to confine her to the hospital. A judge found in favor of Tallahassee Memorial and issued a court order man dating hospital bed rest, medication to prolong her pregnancy, and, if necessary, forced delivery.” MORE RAGE.

I emailed my girlfriend’s boss to complain that he encroached on our relationship, Ask a Manager. OOP SRY THAT’S ONE MORE FOR YOUR RAGE FILES!

The unbearable stench of Trump’s B.S., The Washington Post.

Maybe Donald Trump has really lost his mind: What if the GOP frontrunner isn’t crazy, but simply not well?, Salon.

This FB post about Trump kicking out that baby.

Critics See Efforts by Counties and Towns to Purge Minority Voters From Rolls, The New York Times.

The Internet of Dead Girls, Jezebel.

I Replaced The Word ‘Millennials’ With ‘43-Year-Old White Men’ And Now These Headlines Are *Italian Chef Kissing Fingers Gesture*, Amanda Rosenberg on Medium.

18 “Cursed Child” Moments Which Honestly Make No Sense, BuzzFeed.

It Shouldn’t Have Taken a Khizr Khan, The Atlantic.

17 Reasons Holtzmann From “Ghostbusters” Is The Hero We All Need, BuzzFeed.


The first week of the Two Bad Bodies workout video series, which I did for the first time last summer (full review here). It. Is. Killer.


This backpack, this patch, this tweet, this meme, and the return of everyone’s favorite cartoon dog.

The week ahead…

Watching the Olympics for the ~stories~, as we ladies like to do.

The week in review

July 31, 2016

Hello, hello! I am coming to you after nine days of staycaysh where I wrote ~15,000 words (not including the ones I wrote to angry pro-Trump/never Hillary people on Facebook). This week had some ups (tons of writing! the speeches at the DNC!) and downs (some intense anxiety! every stupid word Donald Trump tweeted with his stubby lil fingers!), but I’m currently feeling pretty good after brunch at Miriam in Brooklyn, a trip to Target, and finishing the layouts in my new bullet journal (which you can currently see more of on my Snapchat).


This election isn’t just Democrat vs. Republican. It’s normal vs. abnormal., Vox.

The Democratic National Convention, Explained For British People, BuzzFeed.


The people who hate Hillary Clinton the most., Slate.

If you hate Hillary so much that you can’t shut up about it, go vote for Trump., Brad Lawrence on Medium. “I do not care if you hate her and think all kinds of bad things about her. Saying it, shouting it, insisting on it when there is only one other option gives that other option fuel, ammo, and an advantage. It suppresses the enthusiasm and motivation we will need voters to have to get out and vote and stop Trump. If you are hindering that just because you are bitter about things that you have made no effort to change in non election years, things that you never put any work into, or because your Jesus didn’t get the nomination instead, if you are willing to put all those vulnerable people at risk so you can shoot off your mouth… Vote Trump.”

14 Daughters Who Got to Stay Up Late to See Hillary Clinton Make History, ELLE. Gave me chills.

17 Pictures Of Bill Clinton Realizing That Balloons Exist, BuzzFeed.

People Are Sharing Pics Of Their Grandmas Celebrating Hillary Clinton’s Nomination, BuzzFeed.

An Open Letter By A #NeverHillary Supporter Who Is Definitely Not Vladimir Putin, Full Frontal on Medium.

The Democrats Are Led By Fucking Grown-Ups, And The GOP Is Led By An Adolescent Cheeto, Very Smart Brothas.

“No Relation” — Former Bernie Sanders spokesperson Symone Sanders on her road to the convention, Lenny Letter.

Seven Minutes That Shook the Convention, Politico.

Donald Trump’s slander of Captain Humayun Khan’s family is horrifying, even for Trump, Vox.

For This Republican, Never Trump Means “I’m With Her”, Caroline McCain on Medium. “He is the result of a demand for ideological purity at all costs, and the bastard child of talk radio and entertainment TV.” She went IN.
On Melania Trump’s Nude Photos, Femina Fera on Medium. Donald Trump is complicit in allowing a publication which has endorsed him to victimize his own wife. If there is any story worth talking about here, that is it.

All the reasons Trump is a fascist. This is beyond disturbing. Go watch some of the DNC speeches when you’re done with it to cleanse your soul.

The ‘smoking gun’ proving North Carolina Republicans tried to disenfranchise black voters, The Washington Post.

6 Things I Wish I Knew When I Started Working, Man Repeller.

How to be human: ‘It’s just this one thing with how we communicate…’, The Verge.

The Difficulties of Trying for a Second Child, The Ugly Volvo. Made me LOL.

Could Women Be Trusted With Their Own Pregnancy Tests?, The New York Times.

How Sulcata Tortoises Became America’s Most Adorable Mistake, BuzzFeed.

Investigations seek greater clarity in Johnathan Turner case, ESPN.

Are We Living in a Golden Age of Stunt Journalism?, Newsweek.

‘How’s Amanda?’, The Washington Post. I actually read all the stories in this series (the others are linked at the bottom of this one) and they are all great.

9 Non-Threatening Leadership Strategies for Women, The Cooper Review.


Rep. Emanuel Cleaver taking us to CHURCH.

The joy in this iconic hug.

This rendition of “Fight Song.”

This guy’s reaction to Lemonade.

This tweet and this one too.


To try rosé all three of these ways: in a can, frozen, and with pamplemousse La Croix (which is the only remotely good kind of La Croix as far as I’m concerned).

To finish Stranger Things. I don’t hate it — though the first two episodes were a struggle — but I don’t love it either and I kinda just want to be done already.

The week ahead…

I guess I should probably figure out what I want to do for my birthday?

The week in review

July 24, 2016

doll house

This week I went to several holiday press previews, finished Season 4 of Orange is the New Black (which I have yet to recover from emotionally), and confirmed with my new dentist that I have, in fact, been grinding my teeth at night. Here’s what else I got up to…


The Yunited States of Yuge, GQ. Caity Weaver does it again.

Donald Trump’s Ghostwriter Tells All, The New Yorker.

On July 13, 2015, President Obama commuted the prison sentences of 46 nonviolent drug offenders. Here’s what their lives are like now., The Washington Post.

The R.N.C. on TV: Ivanka’s Weaponized Graciousness, The New Yorker.

The GOP is Gaslighting America — on National Television, Texas Observer.

What, Congressman Steve King Asks, Have Nonwhites Done for Civilization?, The New York Times. Your 2016 Republican party, ladies and gentlemen!

Please read this before you post another RIP on social media., Upworthy.

Expense Policies Are a Woman’s Problem, Dawn Bovasso on Medium. “Household expenses are not covered because expense policies (and IRS codes) are still biased toward men. Most of these policies were created when men were traveling, and women were home taking care of the kids. When the male leaders of this world travel, there is an embedded assumption that they have women at home maintaining the hearth, cooking their meals, taking care of their children, feeding their dogs, watering their plants. They do not need to pay for these services, because it is built in as part of the traditional family unit. They don’t need to pay for babysitting, though they do need drinks and they definitely cannot do their own laundry. You can get $30 for takeout if you work late (because your wife isn’t there to cook you dinner) or $30 for scotch if you want to drink your face off, but you can’t get $30 for a sitter (because your wife is at home with the kids).”

Confessions Of A Dishonest Slob: How The Haters Got Trump This Close To The White House, BuzzFeed.

Why I Want You to Notice That I’m Fat, Marie Claire.

Can a Woman’s Voice Ever Be Right?, New York Magazine.

Why Men Want to Marry Melanias and Raise Ivankas, The New York Times.

Frustrated You Can’t Find A Therapist? They’re Frustrated, Too, NPR.

Getting Rid Of Clothes I Hated Helped Me Love My Body, BuzzFeed. This is SO good!

Getting UnREAL About Race, Ugh, UnReal is not great this season, and this last episode was just extra.

The Psychology of Why Americans Are Afraid of Historically Low Crime Levels, New York Mag.

How Has Jeff Goldblum Gotten Even Hotter?, “Here’s the problem with Jeff Goldblum: He has a long history of surprise hotness that is seriously destabilizing. Like, you show up to a movie thinking, ‘I like Jeff Goldblum. His line delivery is pretty quirky. He acts well. Nice guy.’ And then, all of a sudden, he shows up giving you swarthy realness and you’re like, ‘What movie is this again? Am I at home watching Cinemax? I’m going to need to take a moment right here in this Regal theater.'” I meannnnnnnn….

Finally, please read this story.


This tweet, this kid, this moment of black joy, and this fur-lined robe (even though it’s the hottest week of the summer — I’ll definitely be buying one as soon as the temperature drops).

The week ahead…

Taking it off, actually — I have some non-BF writing I want to work on and a shit-ton of PTO that I need to take, so that’s my plan!

The week in review

July 17, 2016

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After three weekends away and two extra-horrible weeks in the world, it was really good to just hunker down at home this weekend. There was embroidery and Orange is the New Black and UnReal and no pants and no bra and a little yoga and a bit of bourbon and some Snapchat and some Pokémon Go.

Here are some other highlights from the past two weeks…


10 Life-Changing Things To Try In July


I read Where’d You Go Bernadette? (fine, light, but I thought the ending lacked payoff) and So Sad Today (really related to the essay about the Internet…could not have related less to the rest of it) and started reading Girls on Fire today.

As for links…

Marie Kondo and the Ruthless War on Stuff, The New York Times. One of my favorites from the past few weeks.

Our Fancy Foods, Ourselves, Eater. I LOVED this.

The Tamir Rice Story: How to Make a Police Shooting Disappear, GQ.

How Real Was Taylor Swift’s Fourth of July Party? An Investigation, Vulture.

Behold Your Newest Silver-Screen Sex Goddess, Jane Neighbor, The New Yorker.

Pokémon Go isn’t a fad. It’s a beginning., Vox.

Absurd propaganda postcards warning men about the dangers of women’s rights, early 1900s, Dangerous Minds. Wow, where did they get all these photos of me?

Outlander’s costume designer on her job in the “women’s ghetto”, A.V. Club. This is SO GOOD.

The Atlanta Braves Borrowed Their Parking Scam From Dan Snyder, Deadspin. UGGGGHHHH THIS MOTHER FUCKER RIGHT HERE.

How a $2 Roadside Drug Test Sends Innocent People to Jail, The New York Times. This was the first thing I read Monday morning after my news break last weekend and JFC it was a rough one to start with.

How Many Black People Can You Mourn In One Week?, BuzzFeed. Really beautiful piece by my coworker/friend Hannah. “Today I sit alone in a Toronto hotel room, working far away from all the people I love most. But my friends are my anchors, and I am not alone. From every corner of the continent, of the world, black people hold me. We hold each other. We carry our community with love, with a commitment to disregard every message that says we are unworthy.”

Am I Going to Write About Murdered Black People Forever?, Jezebel.

Why One Woman Pretended to Be a High-School Cheerleader, The Atlantic.

Who Is The Tiny House Revolution For?, BuzzFeed.

Black Women in the Spotlight, The Atlantic.

All the Reasons the Rio Olympics Are Fucked, Gawker.

Raising my fist at the Olympics cost me friends and my marriage — but I’d do it again, Vox.

The White Man in That Photo, Films for Action. Definitely cried on the subway reading this.

Gymnastics Hair: A Retrospective, The Gymternet.

How Misandrist Are You?, BuzzFeed. An oldie but a goodie.

We regret to inform you that the remainder of 2016 has been cancelled, by Kimberly Harrington on Medium.

Hunger Makes Me, Hazlitt.

PokéStop In The Name Of Love,

What Do You See When You Look at This Cover?,

On Making Black Lives Matter, Marie Claire.

Ask a Former Drunk: How Do You Start Sobriety?, Jezebel. “One of the brilliant concepts of AA is the notion of ‘one day at a time.’ Probably like me, you hate cliches. Using them, living by them, becoming them. So the words ‘one day at a time’ might make you cringe, because they sound like something framed in an old person’s bathroom, the words written in unsophisticated cursive and laid over a portrait of a tangerine sunset. Part of being young is being in thrall to cleverness, so anything with the whiff of a Hallmark card tends to make us recoil. Never mind that so much beauty and joy in the world rises and falls on the backs of cliches. I love you. Help me. I’m sorry. Never mind what a tired cliche it is, to be another young person drinking their promise away, trying to mold themselves into the heroes who either died or got sober long ago. Look, I get it: Cliches suck. But understand this: Sometimes cliches work.” This is a great read regardless of whether you struggle with addiction. 


These shorts from J. Crew Factory (I have three pairs; two in white — which is not available in the 3″ length online — and one in mint green, which is also not available online), this pin, Nate Parker, this thread on Trump and this one on Pence, this tweet and this one, and Kate McKinnon in Ghostbusters.

The week ahead…

One day at a time.

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