You can take my gun as long as I can keep my phone.

August 27, 2015

Photo by Beth Retro

Photo: Beth Retro / Society6

Another day, another angry man shooting. I was sitting on the News side of the office yesterday — the air conditioning is broken on the Life and Buzz side, so many of us have set up shop on the other side to stay sane — when suddenly the room broke out in gasps and several “OH MY GOD”s. It was incredibly unsettling, and I had a sick feeling the rest of the day because I couldn’t stop thinking about what they must have seen that would elicit that sort of reaction.

Today the conversation has sort of turned, as it often sort of does, to gun control, mental illness, and whether it’s “too soon” to have a conversation about guns. But when the father of the victim says it’s not too soon, and, in fact, starts the conversation, I think we’re definitely OK to go ahead and talk about it.

As I (foolishly, I know) read the comments on some of the posts about the murders of Alison Parker and Adam Ward and the attempted murder of Vicki Gardner yesterday, it’s sort of amazing to see how many gun enthusiasts (or the people who don’t own guns but who align themselves with the politics of gun enthusiasts) feel super strongly that the Second Amendment is there for our own good. That owning a gun is a constitutional right that must be protected because it’s a valid one. And it’s valid because gun ownership is… the only thing keeping America from having its very own Hunger Games?

The Onion has perfectly summed up how absurd that idea is. And yet Ted Cruz recently called gun ownership the “ultimate check against governmental tyranny — for the protection of liberty.” And yet another senator said the Second Amendment was written “to balance a tyrannical force here.” (He said this after 20 children were murdered in their classrooms two weeks before Christmas.) And yet. And yet. And yet.

YOU GUYS. Come ON.

I mean, first of all, the way the Second Amendment is being interpreted by most of these types is suspect as hell. But even if you believe that the founding fathers had keeping tyranny at bay when they were writing the Constitution, and even if you believe they would be against, IDK, re-evaluating some of the things they did or didn’t put in the Constitution as society and technology evolved… I legitimately don’t understand how one could believe this notion of keeping tyranny in check idea is THAT compelling in modern America… mainly because I’ve never thought that a gun would keep me safe if those with power wanted to fuck with me.

To be clear, I don’t have a ton of trust of those in power at this point in my life. But the true threats to my life and liberty will likely not be stopped with a weapon, because the people who want to take those things away from me will pretty much always have a bigger weapon than I ever could.

If a man decides it’s appropriate to grab me from behind and slit my throat because I refuse to go out with him, a gun probably won’t do a whole lot for me. If a group of people want to stop me from having the abortion I need to stay alive, a gun isn’t going to save me. When I showed up to vote without a Texas ID in Houston, a gun wouldn’t have helped me. (Being middle class sure did, though!) A gun wouldn’t save me from being raped by this cop, or keep a group of cops from forcibly fingering me in a gas station parking lot because they “smelled marijuana” during a traffic stop like they did this woman. If someone wants to see me thrown in jail for existing while black, a gun isn’t going to save me — in fact, it’s actually pretty likely to ensure that I end up fucking dead.

Perhaps the people who believe they need a gun for protection don’t realize how little they have to be afraid of in terms of institutionalized violence. I mean, if you’re white dude, you can show up to Target with a gun as part of a “peaceful protest” for gun rights. If you’re black and engaged in a peaceful protest about the well-documented police brutality that is actually taking away the rights of you and your children and your partner and your friends… well, then, your phone is a much better choice as far as defense systems go.

Because at least our phones have Twitter. And Vine. They have the blog posts that explain what, exactly, your rights are when you’re stopped by the cops. They can create hashtags and have apps that ensure your videos will automatically go to the cloud even if the phone gets taken or smashed. They have the platforms and access to the communities that allow people to talk openly about what is happening. And then there’s the photos. And the voice recordings, location data, and timestamps. The unedited videos. All the little bits of evidence and megabytes that are helping marginalized people get their stories heard and taken seriously.

So yeah, go ahead and make it hard for me to own a gun… in terms of keeping tyranny in check, the main thing I care about remaining in possession of is my phone. (And, God help me, a charger.)

The week in review

August 23, 2015

The past couple weeks have been solid!

giant beach ball

Bear Mountain

Highlights

– Last weekend, we went to the beach with friends and played with all sorts of giant-ass inflatables. We brought along this beach tent (which I received for free) and it was AMAZING. I didn’t expect much of it but everyone loved it and other beach-goers stopped by to ask where we got it. If you go to the beach regularly, it’s worth it. Bonus: you can tote it in a bag about the size of yoga mat bag.
– Yesterday, Eric and I went hiking at Bear Mountain. We used this description to guide our hike, which turned out to be a lot easier and more meh than that post makes it sound. (However, I think doing that exact hike in reverse would have been fantastic.) Since the first hike was underwhelming, we did a second hike on Appalachian Trail, which we both liked a lot better.
– At work, I’ve been doing lots of DIY projects with our new Cricut Explore Air, which I LOVE.
– I went to a Lululemon event this week and got my ass kicked by a very good-looking trainer in exchange for a ton of awesome swag.
– This week was soul-crushingly muggy in NYC and the AC broke down on my side of the office. It’s been pretty rough.
– Eric and I have been picking up bottles of Le Goat Blush — a sweet wine that tastes more like juice — at Olivino Wines in Bed-Stuy. Definitely recommend!

Here are some other updates from around these parts…

Creating

15 Insanely Creative Things To Do With Mason Jars (So excited to work with an illustrator to bring this idea to life!)

This Painter Will Create Custom Portraits Of Your Wedding Guests

Here’s A Simple Way To Save Your Wedding Cards: video and post.

These Runway-Inspired Wedding Cakes Are Amazing.

Never-Before-Seen Photos From Charles And Diana’s Wedding Up For Auction

And our design team turned one of my ideas into a cute illustration.

Reading

Homme de Plume: What I Learned Sending My Novel Out Under a Male Name, Jezebel.

Meet the Woman Who Started a Drybar for Women With Natural Hair, The Cut.

Things That Will Happen If I Don’t Take My Phone Out Right Now, The New Yorker.

How Texas Could Set National Template for Limiting Abortion Access, The New York Times.

Jell-O Molds and Shrimp Trees: Behind the Insane Vintage Food of ABC’s “The Astronaut Wives Club”, Bon Appetit. (Bonus: the food stylist — whose Instagram is AMAZING — mentioned a post I wrote on vintage Christmas foods in this interview!)

The Teflon Toxin: DuPont and the Chemistry of Deception, The Intercept.

“Fixing to preach about some Duggars.”

Fertility clinics destroy embryos all the time. Why aren’t conservatives after them? Washington Post.

An Adult’s Guide To Snapchat, BuzzFeed. This was very helpful. (If you’d like to see my first pitiful attempts to use Snapchat, I’m on there as the_rewm.)

Indefensible: The Story Of New Orleans’ Public Defenders, BuzzFeed.

An Open Letter to People Thinking About Checking to See if Their Husbands or Wives Were On Ashley Madison, Dan Savage on The Stranger.

How Waist Trainers Became The Biggest Thing On Instagram, Fader.

We Need to Talk About Amy Winehouse’s Eating Disorder and Its Role In Her Death, Pitchfork.

How The GOP Can Appeal To Women, The Onion.

Manicures and Permanents: Inside a Senior Living Facility Beauty Shop, Racked.

Why Taylor Woolrich Wanted A Gun, BuzzFeed.

Wedding Photos From All 50 States 50 Days After Nationwide Marriage Equality, BuzzFeed. ***Cry warning***

If Internet Trolls Were Real, BuzzFeed BFF.

This made me LOL.

I finally took the time to save every one of these posts to Pocket and read them all this week.

In terms of books, I read an advance copy of The Story of the Lost Child (!!) and now I’m finishing up Never Have I Ever: My Life (So Far) Without a Date by my coworker Katie Heaney.

The week ahead…

It’s my intern’s last week, which is sad! Other than that, it should be more of the usual.

My birthday in Burlington

August 16, 2015

People tend to take their final vacation of the summer the first week of August — the week of my birthday. I learned this as a kid, when my birthday parties were heavily under-attended. In mid-July, I looked at our out of office calendar and realized all of my coworkers were going to be out that week…so this year, I finally wised up and decided to do the same thing.

Burlington, VT

After I put a call on Facebook for a destination that would “include good food, historical stuff/antiques, nature, and other things one might Instagram” and got a bunch of great suggestions, Eric and I settled on Burlington. Neither of us had ever been to Vermont before. Burlington is a six-hour drive from Brooklyn, so we left early Friday morning (my birthday) and arrived around 1:00, and then headed headed home Sunday around 12:30. I was worried we wouldn’t have time to do everything we wanted to do but we were able to fit a lot in.

Burlington, VT

Jericho, VT

Burlington, VT

Here are some things we both loved about it:

The weather. As we made the drive north, Eric noticed that the temperature kept dropping, even though it was getting later in the day. By the time we’d arrived, it was a cool 72 degrees. I repeat: IT WAS SEVENTY-TWO DEGREES FAHRENHEIT OUTDOORS IN AUGUST. It was also breezy and sunny and just all-around lovely.

How clean it was. In fairness, I don’t know if it’s actually clean, or if New York is just so incredibly dirty that anything would feel clean at this point, but all that fresh mountain air felt very clean.

It’s beautiful. The drive up took us through a lot of beautiful farmland with a great Americana vibe, and I noticed colorful flowers everywhere we went in Burlington. It was nice to get out of the city and spend time in such lush surroundings.

How motivated we felt. As I was researching things to do, I learned that Burlington has been named one of the happiest and healthiest cities in America (especially for women), which I think made us feel a little more motivated overall. But it would be hard not to be motivated there; everywhere we went had a very crunchy-healthy vibe. We spent the majority of the trip hiking, which was awesome; I felt so smug by the time we left.

Here are some of the highlights of our trip:

Hiking Mt. Philo

Mt Philo

Mt Philo, Burlington VT

We did this hike later on the afternoon we arrived; I wasn’t sure we had it in us after a 5 a.m. wakeup call/six-hour drive, but I’m so glad we went for it. It was about a 25-minute drive from our hotel and the views are amazing. The first 15 minutes of the hike will get your heart rate up, but it’s not too punishing overall. (And if you just want an awesome view, you can also just drive to the top.)

Hiking Mt. Mansfield

Mt Mansfield

Burlington, VT

Mt. Mansfield was a 45-minute drive from our hotel, but it was definitely worth it. The drive was really pretty and took us through a bunch of very charming small towns. (This was the case with most of the drives we made through Vermont.) After some debate, Eric and I decided to hike Sunset Ridge Trail and the little spur that shoots off of it (which had an awesome view of its own). The hike ended up being three hours round-trip, including the hike up to the trail itself from the parking lot.

Mt Mansfield

Some parts were definitely challenging (I’m not a huge fan of scaling steep rocks; I prefer ~forest floor~) but we saw a girl who I’d guess was about seven years old hiking it with one arm in a cast. The people I assume were her mother and father were hiking with a baby on their chest and a toddler on their back, respectively, so…either people from Burlington are ridiculously fit, or the trail is just pretty manageable.

Mt Mansfield

Jericho Country Store

Jericho, VT

Jericho, VT

Jericho, VT

This little store was one of my favorite things about our trip. We first stopped there for water on our way to Mt. Mansfield; it’s like a bodega in an old-timey general store. It has kombucha and root bear on tap and a wooden checkers set set up on an old barrel. As we were finishing up our hike and getting hungry, Eric suggested we stop there for lunch on our way back. All I wanted was a classic turkey sandwich with lettuce and mayo, and I figured they could make me that, so I was down. We ate our foodstuffs in the park across the street and my sandwich turned out to be, like, the best classic turkey sandwich ever.

Jericho, VT

Also, fun fact: Jericho, Vermont is the home of Walter “Snowflake” Bentley, who I wrote about earlier this year.

The Ben & Jerry’s factory

Ben & Jerry's

Ben & Jerry's

Ben & Jerry's

The Ben & Jerry’s factory was about a 30-minute drive from our hotel; we headed out there on Saturday evening after returning from Mt. Mansfield. The 30-minute tour was fun (though I felt like I learned the most interesting tidbits from reading the stuff in the lobby area, so be sure to check that out too!) and included a free sample, and it was just a beautiful night so it was hard not to feel happy about life. I wish we’d had time to check out Waterbury and Stowe a little more, but we did pop into the Cabot Cheese Annex on our way back to Burlington. (If you ever spot Cabot Private Stock Extra Sharp Cheddar in a store, I highly recommend it. We unknowingly walked in five minutes before they were going to close and I impulse-bought two blocks of the cheese, along with a souvenir wire cheese slicer, and all of these purchases were 100 percent worth it.)

Vermont Tap House

Vermont Tap House

Vermont Tap House

BuzzFeed’s travel editor Annie recommended this restaurant, and I’m so glad she did. After looking at the menu, I was expecting something a little fussy, but it was in a more commercial part of town and looked/felt like a suburban chain restaurant. (Whether or not that’s a good thing depends, I suppose.) In any case, the pizza was fantastic.

Juniper

Juniper — Hotel Vermont

Juniper — Hotel Vermont

A press contact invited us to have breakfast at this restaurant (located in the Hotel Vermont); the food was great and it had a very chill vibe. After breakfast on Sunday, we walked around the waterfront and Church Street Marketplace area, just generally loving shit.

Green Mountain Suites

Green Mountain Suites

We mainly chose this hotel because it’s dog-friendly and budget-friendly, but it was pretty great overall. The location was solid, the breakfast was good, and the suite was really big/nice. (The decor actually reminded us a lot of our bedroom in Houston, so that was kind of sweet.) While a lot of the things we did required 25-45 minutes of driving, there really aren’t really hotels that were better located if that’s what you want to do. (Like, the state parks are just kind of in the midst of all the farms.) If you’re planning a trip. I’d definitely recommend Green Mountain Suites.

Mt Philo, Burlington VT

Burlington was great; I hope we’ll go back at some point, but until then, Eric and I both want to take some day trips/do more hiking closer to home. The trip was was everything I’d want in a vacation (and a birthday); we escaped the city for a few days and returned feeling happy, inspired, and content.

The week in review

August 2, 2015

So many things happened this week, starting with my new look!

pink hair

My new pink hair is the result of a BuzzFeed original project that I’m working on for next month. We shot on Monday and Tuesday; it was a ton of fun and went really well. I’m still adjusting to having pink hair but I’m into it, and the response from others — particular from complete strangers — has been really positive.

bright hair colors

pink hair

Other highlights from this week included publishing the gender-flipped bachelorette party shoot I worked on last month, puppy sitting (!!), going out for tater tots, getting completely addicted to UnReal on Lifetime (watchitwatchitwatchit), getting contacts, and trying deep-fried Oreos for the first time at Eric’s company picnic!

If Bachelor Parties Looked Like Bachelorette Parties (Photo: Lauren Zaser / Buzzfeed Life)

puppy sitting

deep fried oreos

It was very a full week, and a very good one!

Other good stuff from this week…

Writing

If Bachelor Parties Looked Like Bachelorette Parties

This Bride Asked Her 89-Year-Old Grandma To Be Her Bridesmaid

10 Life-Changing Things To Try In August

15 Temporary Tattoos Every Hopeless Romantic Will Love

Reading

Vocal Fries: Now With 10% Less Internalized Misogyny, The Hairpin.

Inside the Family Battle for the Newman’s Own Brand Name, Vanity Fair.

My Private Shame: I Didn’t Report My Sexual Assault, ELLE.

How the penis disappeared from the sex toy, Fusion.

Planned Parenthood is Not Selling Baby Parts, You Fucking Idiots, Skepchick.

How A Small-Time Drug Dealer Rescued Dozens During Hurricane Katrina, BuzzFeed.

A Renaissance painting reveals how breeding changed watermelons, Vox. OK, I never understood trypophobia until I saw this image; it makes me deeply uncomfortable in a way that I cannot explain.

Farting Is My Secret Feminist Weapon that Works Every Time, xoJane. This is ridiculous but the writing made me laugh.

Can Geeky-Con’s Founder Change Fandom For The Better? BuzzFeed.

How Hurricane Katrina Turned Pets Into People, BuzzFeed.

My Outrage Is Better Than Your Outrage, The Atlantic.

Can Micellar Water Replace Your Whole Skincare Routine? ELLE. Dallas backed up everything in this post so I bought some on Friday.

And this made me laugh so hard I was in tears.

The week ahead…

Turning 30, nbd.

Reading: Hausfrau

July 27, 2015

Like I’m guessing many people who read Hausfrau did, I first picked the book up because of its ridiculously beautiful cover.

hausfrau

While I didn’t think I would like Jill Alexander Essbaum’s novel all that much, I actually really liked it. It was dark and intense and you sort of read it with a sense of dread…but I somehow still found it very enjoyable. Here’s the book’s description from the inside cover:

“Anna Benz, an American in her late thirties, lives with her Swiss husband, Bruno—a banker—and their three young children in a postcard-perfect suburb of Zurich. Though she leads a comfortable, well-appointed life, Anna is falling apart inside. Adrift and increasingly unable to connect with the emotionally unavailable Bruno or even with her own thoughts and feelings, Anna tries to rouse herself with new experiences: German language classes, Jungian analysis, and a series of sexual affairs she enters with an ease that surprises even her.

But Anna can’t easily extract herself from these affairs. When she wants to end them, she finds that it’s difficult. Tensions escalate, and her lies start to spin out of control. Having crossed a moral threshold, Anna will discover where a woman goes when there is no going back.”

So, from that description and the blurbs on the back cover (and all over the Internet) that compare the book to Anna Karenina, I read Hausfrau with a “welp, this is going to end badly” mindset. That’s not a spoiler, more of a way of setting the tone for the book; that tone is, I think, part of why I enjoyed it. I didn’t expect a story of redemption, but a story of desperation and despair. When I read some reviews on Goodreads after I finished it, it seemed like the people who didn’t like it expected it to be the former. They were frustrated with Anna for continuing to make shitty choices and found her unlikable. And she is unlikable, but because Hausfrau is written in third-person, I never felt like I was being asked to like her. There was no defense of her choices or her continued fuckups; they were presented very matter-of-factly. Though some readers found her sympathetic, I’m not one of them. But I really liked the book anyway.

What makes the 320-page novel so good os the prose and the storytelling, which is elegant and tight and raw and dark. Hausfrau cuts between different moments in the past and Anna’s therapy sessions, and while that many flashbacks can be excruciating in some books or in TV shows, the therapy moments are only about a paragraph long so the book still moved quickly. About three-fourths of the way through, it begins to drag a bit, but not for long. The last few pages were so vivid and intense, and the last line of the book kind of took my breath away.

Hausfrau is not a light read, but it’s still very readable, if that makes sense; I got through it in a few days and I’ll probably read it again at some point. Definitely recommend it.

The week in review

July 26, 2015

Photo: John Gara for BuzzFeed Life; Calligraphy: Laura Hooper

The shoot I had scheduled for last week had to be pushed back, so I ended up with two days at work that were completely meeting-free. It was great! I also started making my to-do lists for each day the evening before instead of the morning of, and I muted a bunch of desktop notifications; both changes led to a very focused and productive week. On Friday, I was on a shoot with Laura Hooper all day, which was great. She’s incredibly talented and it was so fun to watch her in action. This weekend Eric and I went to the Mets game, ate crepes, and did a little shopping, and I met friends for drinks, tacos, and discussion of Taylor Swift, feminism, and kittens at Chilo’s. Good stuff all around!

Here are some other highlights from the week…

Writing

These Mini-Pizzas In Tiny Boxes Win The Late-Night Wedding Snack Game

This Ring Bearer Stole The Show At Her Mom’s Wedding

Reading

Helping Prisoners’ Voices Be Heard By Their Children and Reading Aloud to My Daughter, From Prison, The New York Times.

What If I Knew I Was Beautiful, BuzzFeed SOML.

Why You Should Wear the Same Outfit to Every Meeting, Racked.

“Where’s My Cut?”: On Unpaid Emotional Labor, The Toast.

I Completed Six of the Internet’s Top Body Shaming Challenges from Bikini Bridge to the Finger Trap Test, xoJane.

Ex-Googler says she exposed company-wide pay inequality with crowdsourced spreadsheet, Fusion.

First Look at the New Food52 Office, Brought to You by #MOVE52, Food52. I am so deeply jealous that people get to work in a place that looks like that every day.

Racist Readers Need Not Apply, Houstonia.

Think Like A Lady, Buy Like A Man: A Woman’s Guide to Dude Products, Racked.

I’m also back to reading Pageants, Parlors, and Pretty Women: Race and Beauty in the Twentieth-Century South, which I started a while ago but didn’t ever finish.

The week ahead…

Big shoot on Monday and Tuesday! I’ve been prepping for this for a while so I’m anxious about it/excited to see it happen.

The week in review

July 19, 2015

On Wednesday night, Eric and I headed to SummerScreen in McCarren Park to see an outdoor screening of Wet Hot American Summer.

Since the eight prequel episodes are debuting on Netflix at the end of this month, a bunch of cast members and director David Wain showed up. (David Wain handed Eric and me Rice Krispie treats and said, “It’s just like summer camp!”) And they screened the first episode of the prequel before the movie. It was a pretty great summer night.

This weekend has been pretty nice too; last night, we got dinner from Tepache, a new restaurant in our neighborhood, and watched Despicable Me, which I hadn’t seen. That, combined with this article from The Awl, has me feeling like I finally understand Minions, maybe even enough to give this Minion erotica a read.

Here are some other highlights from the week…

Buying

Bean boots. I ordered them in July because I expect they’ll be sold out from October to February this year (like they were last year), and I just cannot wear my huge-ass Sorel boots on a day to day basis this winter.

Writing

Here’s How People Of Different Ages Define Love

These Boxers Promise To Solve All Your Boner Problems

The Ultimate Wedding Guest Poll (I was genuinely surprised by a lot of the answers here…people are more chill than I expected!)

Reading

Here’s The Trick To Getting “Nude” Lips If You’re A Black Girl, BuzzFeed.

Black Dancers, White Ballets, The New York Times.

The Women Who Rule Pluto, The Atlantic.

The Hopeful, Heartbreaking Ads Placed by Formerly Enslaved People in Search of Lost Family, Slate.

Black Women Have to Put Up with Bullshit Beauty Standards, Vice.

How seltzer water became cooler than Coke, The Washington Post.

The Myth of the Ethical Shopper, Highline.

17 Times Female Athletes Had To Put Up With Sexist Bullshit, BuzzFeed.

Kitchen gadgets review: the Egg Master – a horrifying, unholy affair, The Guardian.

Why The Key Character In ‘Inside Out’ Is The One Who Isn’t There, NPR.

I also read The Warmth of Other Suns: The Epic Story of America’s Great Migration by Isabel Wilkerson this week and I highly recommend it. It was both educational and deeply moving, and the stories Wilkerson tells are truly humbling. Add it to your list.

The week ahead…

The shoot I’ve been working on was pushed back, and I’m looking forward to a quieter week around the office. Meanwhile, Eric and I just started planning a weekend getaway for my birthday next month, and I’m pretty pumped about that!

The week in review

July 12, 2015

fuck off lighter

This week, it felt like the Internet had no chill. The commenters were just SO aggrieved on every article I read. But this weekend has been fantastic, probably because we finally got some decent weather.

Brooklyn

margarita

Chilo's tacos

Hausfrau

On Friday night, I went out with coworkers while Eric did the same. Yesterday we went out for brunch, wandered around Brooklyn, and went to see Inside Out, which was WONDERFUL. This morning we went out for bagels and coffee and I’m meeting a friend for drinks later. It’s basically been a perfect weekend.

Here are some other highlights from the week:

Writing

17 Tips For Getting Dascha Polanco’s Pink Hair Color

Wanting

This outfit.

A Creamsicle cocktail.

Everything at Pink Olive, where Eric and I went yesterday.

Entertained by

Key & Peele’s Menstruation Orientation and Pirate Chantey.

Matt McGorry talking about feminism here and here.

And the decor/vibe/”fuck off” lighters at The Boobie Trap, where I went for a shoot on Monday.

Eating

Tacos and margaritas at Chilo’s, eggs with crispy fried dough at Miriam, and an everything bagel with herbed cream cheese and cucumbers at Bedford Hill.

Reading

If Male Actors Were Described The Way Female Actors Are, BuzzFeed.

A Father’s Struggle to Stop His Daughter’s Adoption, The Atlantic.

Revenge Killing, The New Yorker.

Meet the Women Behind the Funniest Lady Site You’re Not Reading Yet, Racked.

Why Did Mechanics In New York’s Worst Neighborhood Go On Hunger Strike?, Jalopnik.

No, Queer Women Aren’t “Just Experimenting”, BuzzFeed.

Just don’t do it, Language: A Feminist Guide.

Black Woman Artist Poses Nude at Former New York City Slave Trading Sites, Including Wall Street, Black Girl with Long Hair.

How a Bungled Police Investigation Led to a Possible Rape Victim’s Shaming, Riverfront Times.

Everything You Need To Know About Hulk Hogan vs Gawker, Vice. I went wayyyyyy down this rabbit hole this weekend.

Amy Poehler: ‘I see life as being attacked by a bear’, The Guardian.

How I Learned to Love My Body, by Orange Is the New Black’s Danielle Brooks, Glamour.

And I read Our Endless Numbered Days and Hausfrau (more on both at a later date).

The week ahead…

Prepping for two photo shoots that are happening later this month!

How to cook bacon perfectly

July 9, 2015

Like most people with functioning mouths, I enjoy eating bacon. And I’ve finally found the best way to cook it so I don’t end up with grease everywhere and curly, unevenly-cooked bacon.

The Secret to Perfect Bacon

1. Take the package of bacon from the fridge and let it sit on the counter for 15-20 minutes, slowly going from chilled to something nearer to room temperature. (Even letting it sit for 10 minutes helps.)

2. Put the bacon into a room-temperature pan — not a pre-heated one — and cook it over medium/medium-low heat until it’s done.

3. Enjoy your crispy and flat bacon.

I can’t remember where I read about this method, but it works so well. Apparently when cold bacon hits a hot pan, it immediately curls up. But when the pan isn’t hot and the bacon isn’t cold, it cooks evenly and stays nice and flat. I’ve been doing this for a few months and it’s worked perfectly every time!

DIY vase project

July 6, 2015

This vase was one of the first things I made with my Silhouette Portrait.

best buds

Photo: Sarah Kobos / BuzzFeed Life

Learning to use the Silhouette is definitely taking a lot of trial and error, but this project wasn’t too bad. I quickly discovered the “Weld” function, which is what I used to get the letters to cut out as one piece instead of separately. (The font I used is called Rochester, by the way.) And it wasn’t terribly easy to get the words onto the curved vase. But I’m pretty happy with how it turned out! I like the idea of giving it as a housewarming or hostess gift, along with a bunch of fresh flowers.

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