This week, I experienced the most incredible NYC sunset, shared the collective outrage at Anthony Weiner and the dipshit writer of that godawful headphones article, got a press package from Bath & Body Works containing no less than seven different pumpkin fragrances (?!?!), fiiiiinally ordered new glasses from Warby Parker after picking a pair out at the D.C. store back in February, and received my first-ever emails from Chelsea from Thinx!!! Here’s what else I got up to…
FYI, I Have Loved Fall Since Like Forever
So, I set aside Sweetbitter briefly (it was…not hard to put down) so I could read The Underground Railroad. I read it in one sitting on Saturday. It is gripping, spooky, upsetting, and will stick with me for a very long time. Definitely recommend it.
So, You Must Talk to the Woman Who Is Wearing Headphones, The Washington Post.
How To Talk To A Woman Even Though She’s A Ghost, BuzzFeed.
I Have Decided to Marry My Catcaller and Here is Our Wedding Registry, McSweeney’s.
How To Talk To A Woman In A Diabetic Coma, Very Smart Brothas.
Also still laughing at this very good Tweet and this one.
The Real Trumpettes of Bel Air, Politico.
The Perilous Lure of the Underground Railroad, The New Yorker.
Stop Blaming Huma for Her Husband’s Epic Fail(s), A Practical Wedding. “Weiner had one goddamn job.”
Stop Trying to Make Anthony Weiner’s Sexting a Political Issue, New York Magazine.
There’s never been a better time to watch the beguiling Anthony Weiner documentary Weiner, Vox. Also this tweet about Weiner made me laugh out loud.
Why Am I So Fat?, Sara Benincasa on Medium.
How Fox News Women Took Down Roger Ailes, New York Magazine.
Framed, LA Times. I knew the bare bones of this story already but OMG this whole thing is so gripping.
Shit happens: I spent two terrible weeks on a Kardashian-endorsed ‘teatox’, Fusion.
The Comfort of a Digital Confidante, The Atlantic. “Perhaps, then, that Instagram shot or confessional tweet isn’t always meant to evoke some mythical, pretend version of ourselves, but instead seeks to invoke the imagined perfect audience—the non-existent people who will see us exactly as we want to be seen. We are not curating an ideal self, but rather, an ideal Other, a fantasy in which our struggle to become ourselves is met with the utmost empathy.”
What happens when sexual assault happens on a long-haul flight., Slate.
The Distinct Pleasure of the House Dress, Racked. I’m not currently a house dress person, but they make a good case.
Huma Abedin Doesn’t Have To Be “The Good Wife” Anymore, BuzzFeed.
Adult Learning: How to break the pattern of dating Man-babies, She Does the City. Oh…oh this is good.
23 Really Funny Tumblr Posts That Are Just About, Like, Life, BuzzFeed.
Not All Men? Well, actually…, Alicen Grey on Medium.
Oops I Made A Feminist Joke On The Internet, Sara Schaefer on Medium.
The Long-Lasting Legacy of the Great Migration, Smithsonian Magazine. Great piece by the author of The Warmth of Other Sons, which I highly recommend.
The Most Exclusive Restaurant in America, The New Yorker. I saw this post going around last weekend and didn’t really connect with the hed, but after two friends recommended it, I decided to read it and I’m SO glad I did. Totally bizarre/fascinating!
Why sons hold marriages together, 1843.
Elizabeth Smart Is Standing Up for Rape Victims—And Tearing Down Purity Culture, Broadly.
‘Birth of a Nation’ actress Gabrielle Union: I cannot take Nate Parker rape allegations lightly, LA Times.
Patriotism is for Black People: Colin Kaepernick, Donald Trump and the Selectivity of White Rage, Tim Wise. “It has always been thus: Patriotism is for black people, meaning that it is they (or perhaps other immigrants of color) who are expected to show gratitude, to ignore the nation’s flaws, to sign off on America’s greatness without reservation, because anything less is presumptive evidence of disloyalty. And it makes sense, really. After all, when your nation was built by the deliberate oppression of black and brown peoples, the exploitation of their labor, and the theft of indigenous land — and anyone who would deny this is insufficiently educated to be taken seriously — it is especially vital to police their devotion and fealty to the edifice that marginalized them; to punish them for any deviation. Because to allow them the space to criticize, to condemn, and to castigate, is to allow them the space to organize, and to fight, and to transform.”
Insulting Colin Kaepernick says more about our patriotism than his, Kareem Abdul-Jabbar in the Washington Post. “What should horrify Americans is not Kaepernick’s choice to remain seated during the national anthem, but that nearly 50 years after Ali was banned from boxing for his stance and Tommie Smith and John Carlos’s raised fists caused public ostracization and numerous death threats, we still need to call attention to the same racial inequities. Failure to fix this problem is what’s really un-American here.”
Colin Kaepernick’s True Sin, The Atlantic. “And so Kaepernick’s detractors, when they are not insisting his protest is unpatriotic, or disrespectful to the military, mock his background, upbringing, and success. Photos of Kaepernick with his adoptive parents, mocking the idea that Kaepernick is ‘oppressed,’ have been widely shared on social media. (The notion that Kaepernick’s proximity to whiteness renders him less ‘oppressed’ is less a rebuttal of Kaepernick’s point than an unequivocal affirmation.)”
Also this Tweet.
Trapped in Tollbooths, and Targets of Harassment, The New York Times.
We All Scream for Ice Cream, The New Yorker.
19 Tweets That Will Speak To You If You Think People Are The Worst, BuzzFeed.
One of the Most Important Crosswords in New York Times History, Slate.
How to Tell a Mother Her Child Is Dead, The New York Times. “If she asks you, you will tell her what you know. You do not lie. But do not say he was murdered or he was killed. Yes, I know that he was, but that is not what you say. You say that he died; that is the part that you saw and that you know. When she asks if he felt any pain, you must be very careful. If he did not, you assure her quickly. If he did, you do not lie. But his pain is over now. Do not ever say he was lucky that he did not feel pain. He was not lucky. She is not lucky. Don’t make that face. The depth of the stupidity of the things you will say sometimes is unimaginable.”
Killer Robots Are Coming And These People Are Trying To Stop Them, BuzzFeed.
I Just Have a Few Questions About Last Night’s VMAs, ELLE.com. This whole thing is just gold.
“Congratulations,” this perfect parody of food blogging, if Disney princesses were on The Bachelor, Weiner, this Tweet and this one, You’re the Worst (I’m re-watching the first two seasons because I love it so), and a stock video of a woman counting.
The week ahead…
At the behest of my friend Rachel Sanders, I will be experiencing life without a top sheet for the first time ever.