The week in review

July 17, 2016

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After three weekends away and two extra-horrible weeks in the world, it was really good to just hunker down at home this weekend. There was embroidery and Orange is the New Black and UnReal and no pants and no bra and a little yoga and a bit of bourbon and some Snapchat and some Pokémon Go.

Here are some other highlights from the past two weeks…

Writing

10 Life-Changing Things To Try In July

Reading

I read Where’d You Go Bernadette? (fine, light, but I thought the ending lacked payoff) and So Sad Today (really related to the essay about the Internet…could not have related less to the rest of it) and started reading Girls on Fire today.

As for links…

Marie Kondo and the Ruthless War on Stuff, The New York Times. One of my favorites from the past few weeks.

Our Fancy Foods, Ourselves, Eater. I LOVED this.

The Tamir Rice Story: How to Make a Police Shooting Disappear, GQ.

How Real Was Taylor Swift’s Fourth of July Party? An Investigation, Vulture.

Behold Your Newest Silver-Screen Sex Goddess, Jane Neighbor, The New Yorker.

Pokémon Go isn’t a fad. It’s a beginning., Vox.

Absurd propaganda postcards warning men about the dangers of women’s rights, early 1900s, Dangerous Minds. Wow, where did they get all these photos of me?

Outlander’s costume designer on her job in the “women’s ghetto”, A.V. Club. This is SO GOOD.

The Atlanta Braves Borrowed Their Parking Scam From Dan Snyder, Deadspin. UGGGGHHHH THIS MOTHER FUCKER RIGHT HERE.

How a $2 Roadside Drug Test Sends Innocent People to Jail, The New York Times. This was the first thing I read Monday morning after my news break last weekend and JFC it was a rough one to start with.

How Many Black People Can You Mourn In One Week?, BuzzFeed. Really beautiful piece by my coworker/friend Hannah. “Today I sit alone in a Toronto hotel room, working far away from all the people I love most. But my friends are my anchors, and I am not alone. From every corner of the continent, of the world, black people hold me. We hold each other. We carry our community with love, with a commitment to disregard every message that says we are unworthy.”

Am I Going to Write About Murdered Black People Forever?, Jezebel.

Why One Woman Pretended to Be a High-School Cheerleader, The Atlantic.

Who Is The Tiny House Revolution For?, BuzzFeed.

Black Women in the Spotlight, The Atlantic.

All the Reasons the Rio Olympics Are Fucked, Gawker.

Raising my fist at the Olympics cost me friends and my marriage — but I’d do it again, Vox.

The White Man in That Photo, Films for Action. Definitely cried on the subway reading this.

Gymnastics Hair: A Retrospective, The Gymternet.

How Misandrist Are You?, BuzzFeed. An oldie but a goodie.

We regret to inform you that the remainder of 2016 has been cancelled, by Kimberly Harrington on Medium.

Hunger Makes Me, Hazlitt.

PokéStop In The Name Of Love, MTV.com.

What Do You See When You Look at This Cover?, ELLE.com.

On Making Black Lives Matter, Marie Claire.

Ask a Former Drunk: How Do You Start Sobriety?, Jezebel. “One of the brilliant concepts of AA is the notion of ‘one day at a time.’ Probably like me, you hate cliches. Using them, living by them, becoming them. So the words ‘one day at a time’ might make you cringe, because they sound like something framed in an old person’s bathroom, the words written in unsophisticated cursive and laid over a portrait of a tangerine sunset. Part of being young is being in thrall to cleverness, so anything with the whiff of a Hallmark card tends to make us recoil. Never mind that so much beauty and joy in the world rises and falls on the backs of cliches. I love you. Help me. I’m sorry. Never mind what a tired cliche it is, to be another young person drinking their promise away, trying to mold themselves into the heroes who either died or got sober long ago. Look, I get it: Cliches suck. But understand this: Sometimes cliches work.” This is a great read regardless of whether you struggle with addiction. 

Loving

These shorts from J. Crew Factory (I have three pairs; two in white — which is not available in the 3″ length online — and one in mint green, which is also not available online), this pin, Nate Parker, this thread on Trump and this one on Pence, this tweet and this one, and Kate McKinnon in Ghostbusters.

The week ahead…

One day at a time.

The week in review

July 10, 2016

On Thursday evening, I headed up to Rhode Island for what turned out to be an incredibly lovely weekend at my pal Alanna’s parents’ beach house. When we arrived, amidst what felt like a never-ending news cycle of doom and garbage, I made the choice to just step away from Twitter/the news all weekend in the interest of self-care.

During the three days we were there, the five of us (along with Alanna’s wonderful parents) walked on the beach, played games, ate ice cream, listened to music, went out for breakfast at a diner where the waitresses wore T-shirts that said “Jam out with your clam out,” spent a large amount of time on the screened-in porch, discussed ways to overturn the patriarchy, did a puzzle, sang oldies and Britney, watched Best in Show, drank cocktails and wine, made s’mores, ate grilled salmon and so much other delicious food, visited a farm and determined that emus are terrifying AF (like, they are basically just dinosaurs), talked about books and writing, told slutty stories, did face masks, slept with all the windows open, laughed so hard we couldn’t stop, and spent a whole lot of time with some chill-ass and adorable dogs. I also took the best shower of my life in the outdoor shower at the house. (Seriously, when they told me it was amazing, I was skeptical, as I hate showering. But it was totally a game changer. Why can’t all showers be that good?!) The weather was super overcast and actually on the cooler side all weekend, but we still had a great time and within a day, I found myself feeling more chill and content than I have in months.

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Be kind to yourselves this week, fam. <3

The week in review

July 4, 2016

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This week was weird…it was made up of four days that were decidedly not Friday even though all of them felt very much like Friday. But this weekend I washed my bras for the first time in God knows how long, got to hang out with some of my oldest and best friends, and discovered the booze aisle at Costco while on a trip to Washington, D.C. So things really turned around for me, is what I’m saying.

Here are some other quick highlights…

Reading

On Gaslighting Nora Samaran. This. Is. So. Damn. Good.

The Humiliating Practice of Sex-Testing Female Athletes, The New York Times.

Justin Timberlake Has Gotten Away With Cultural Appropriation for Years Now, Cosmpolitan.com.

Britain’s Completely Batshit Week Since Brexit, Explained For Americans, BuzzFeed.

‘The Devil Wears Prada’ Turns 10: Meryl Streep, Anne Hathaway and Emily Blunt Tell All, Variety.

27 Idris Elba Pictures To Help You Get Through The Day, BuzzFeed.

A Note on The Toast, by Hillary Clinton on The Toast. “As we look back at what this site has meant to so many of you, I hope you’ll also look forward and consider how you might make your voice heard in whatever arenas matter most to you. Speak your opinion more fervently in your classes if you’re a student, or at meetings in your workplace. Proudly take credit for your ideas. Have confidence in the value of your contributions. And if the space you’re in doesn’t have room for your voice, don’t be afraid to carve out a space of your own. You never know — you might just be the next Nicole Cliffe, Mallory Ortberg or Nikki Chung.” *sobs*

I also gave up on The Empathy Exams and started Where’d You Go, Bernadette? which I’m really enjoying so far.

The week ahead…

A very short week, as I’m heading out of town again for a long weekend!

The week in review

June 26, 2016

This week, we threw a surprise conference room wedding shower for my coworker Julie on Tuesday, and then drove up to Kerhonkson, NY on Friday afternoon for her wedding!

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While we had some, uh, concerns with our Airbnb (mainly that it seemed — and I do not say this jokingly — like the likelihood that we’d get murdered there was…above average) and the hotel we switched to left some things to be desired (fine on paper but somehow just…creepy AF), it was such a good trip. We had a great day in New Paltz on Saturday, and the wedding that evening was a blast. The venue (Rustic Ridge View Farm) was beautiful, the weather was great, and the DJ was awesome. There were there were horses with braids and flowers in their manes, plus Funfetti cake and a nacho cheese fountain. And there was a delicious thyme lemonade that got us drunk enough to dance like no one was watching without us actually wishing in hindsight that no one had been watching! It was great.

Here’s what else I was up to this week…

Reading

My Four Months as a Private Prison Guard: A Mother Jones Investigation, Mother Jones. This week’s must-read.

#589: Tell Me I’m Fat, This American Life. (Not technically a read, but ya know. Listen to it though — it’s great!)

Jack Daniel’s Embraces a Hidden Ingredient: Help From a Slave, The New York Times.

The Mystifying Triumph of Hope Hicks, Donald Trump’s Right-Hand Woman, GQ.

How an Ad Campaign Made Lesbians Fall in Love with Subaru, Priceonomics.

Inside Facebook’s Totally Adorable, Kind of Racist Mixed Race Baby Community, Broadly.

We Need To Talk About The Invisible Cost Of Abortion Clinic Violence, The Huffington Post.

The mind-clearing magic of Japan’s pen-and-paper “planner culture”, Quartz.

“The Best Revenge is Your Paper”: Notes on Women’s Work, Los Angeles Review of Books. I actually started this book a couple months ago and maybe should finish it.

What Happened to Kate Lanphear’s Maxim?, Jezebel.

The Sound of Music Is in His Blood and Now His Heart, The New York Times. I don’t…I can’t…I just…what?????

I’m also still reading The Empathy Exams but I’m kind of struggling with it and it’s due back at the library soon, so I may just need to move on.

The week ahead…

Super excited for the long holiday weekend!

The week in review

June 19, 2016

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Photo: Taylor Miller / BuzzFeed

Hello, hello! Here’s what I was up to this week…

Writing

10 Life-Changing Things You Should Take To The Beach

5 Big-Batch Drinks That Will Get Your Bridal Shower Guests Drunk AF (HIGHLY recommend The Deflower Girl Punch…it’s amazingly delicious!)

How My Glasses Showed Me That I’m My Father’s Daughter

And though I don’t tend to get very meta about my writing these days, I thought I’d share some of the backstory on the glasses piece!

I actually started it at the beginning of March for BuzzFeed’s Body Week. The first draft was very, very light on details about my dad — I summed up basically everything that was in the final essay in a single, vague sentence — and upon reading it, my lovely editor and friend Rachel said that I either needed to really unpack that stuff, or I needed to leave it out completely and make it a light essay that was more about my identity as a glasses-wearer and my failed Lasik. Unsure that I could pull off the first one, I decided to write a draft of each version and see which one was better. So I did. The second one was much heavier on my tween and early teen years, when I wore cat-eyed glasses (which were so hard to find at the time that I had to special order them via my eye doctor’s catalogue), and included a lot of stuff about how the guy I had a crush on constantly made fun of them. I sent both versions to Rachel, and after reading them, she gently but firmly encouraged me to dig deep and do the harder one. I know she sensed my hesitation and she made it clear that I didn’t have to do it, but she said (rightly) that if I was going to do it, it was worth really doing it. So that’s what I decided to do, even though I knew it wouldn’t be easy for me.

By the time I was rounding third on finishing that version, it had become apparent to both Rachel and me that it didn’t totally fit in with a theme week that had by then been re-named Body Positivity Week, and I had another big piece going up for BPW anyway. So we decided to hold it for Father’s Day. After continuing with edits throughout may, it was pretty close to done when we shot the photos the week of June 6th. (Which…ended up being a pretty emotional experience for me, particular when we got to the letters. There had been a bunch of back and forth about The Jolly Postman story because I had started to worry that I was remembering it wrong, but then I opened that letter, realized what it was, and learned that I was remembering it completely accurately, which was really cool to discover. But just in general, it was an emotional afternoon.) I added the edited photos to the post on Thursday, and Rachel and I played around with the placement of each one, but the photo we had at the end of the essay (a shot of me holding my dad’s glasses) just didn’t feel like it was really resonating. I thought we needed a photo that either showed my dad and me together in our glasses…something that perhaps exists somewhere in a photo album, but not in any of the photos I have scanned. So at the end of the day Friday, I asked Taylor, the photographer, if he could quickly shoot the two pairs of glasses side by side on Monday. He obliged and we got the shot on Monday morning. I’m really glad we decided to re-shoot.

Tuesday morning, the day the essay was scheduled to be published, I was really anxious about it. I started to doubt whether or not it even worked, whether being vulnerable and talking about things that I had literally never told anyone was even going to be worth it. I think I had just been working on it for so long that I’d sort of lost sight of the big picture. I knew I was probably being unreasonable and trusted Rachel when she said it was ready to go, which was the right choice. I’m really glad it went out into the world this week.

Here’s what else I had going on this week…

Reading

First, on Orlando:

Please Don’t Stop the Music, The Nation.

Only When I’m Dancing Can I Feel This Free, MTV.com. “For those who let the rhythm get ’em, dancing has a particular significance. Shunned by friends, thrown out of their homes, banished to metaphorical cities on the plain, they find on crowded dance floors a sense of fellowship that is no less deep for being ephemeral. And, no, rhythm isn’t even required — that’s the point. We’re figuring ourselves out in those spaces, a beer at a time, yielding to that frisson triggered by a passing glance, a smile at the bar, an unexpected nudge on the floor itself. ”

26 Things Queer People Actually Want To Hear After Orlando, BuzzFeed.

This sad Twitter thread.

America’s gun problem has everything to do with America’s masculinity problem, Quartz. “Buying a gun isn’t a rational decision; it’s an emotional one.”

To Stop Violence, Start at Home, The New York Times. “An analysis of the criminal justice history of hundreds of thousands of offenders in Washington State suggests that a felony domestic violence conviction is the single greatest predictor of future violent crime among men. With so much at stake, responding to violence against women should be a top priority for everyone. Research tells us that violence is a learned behavior.”

Thou Shalt Kill, Gawker. “Most people, good guys or not, do not need or deserve the power to kill other people. People are confused or bad-tempered or careless or impulsive, especially under stress. They get mad about a stupid, forgettable traffic dispute and shoot somebody. They get scared by a knock at the door and shoot somebody. They get angry at their spouse or partner and decide to shoot them. They get excited about seeing a shoplifter and try to execute the shoplifter by spraying gunfire with innocent bystanders all around on a parking lot. They lose track of where they’ve left their guns until a child finds one and shoots itself, or shoots another child. Or, most often of all, they shoot themselves, making a fleeting impulse into an irrevocable decision.”

What gun control advocates can learn from the abolitionists who helped end slavery., Slate.

Donald Trump’s Exploitation of Orlando, The New Yorker. “It feels indecent on such a day to engage these comments of Trump’s at all. But their velocity, vapidity, and sheer ugliness reflect his character, his emptiness, and, most of all, the shape of the election campaign to come. Since Trump has ascended, it’s been clear that his demagogic instincts could be tested precisely by the sort of tragedy suffered in Orlando. And, when faced with the path of modesty and the path of dark opportunism, he has chosen the latter. That’s what he is about. It’s who he is.”

Now We Have Seen The Epitome of Anti-Gay Hatred, Gawker.

These Are Some Of The Heroes Of The Orlando Shooting, BuzzFeed.

Onto the rest of the garbage world we live in…

Kim Kardashian West on Kanye and Taylor Swift, What’s in O.J.’s Bag, and Understanding Caitlyn, GQ.

Interview With a Woman Who Recently Had an Abortion at 32 Weeks, Jezebel.

Sisterhood of the Traveling Safe Spaces, The Hairpin.

Hillary Supporters Can Now ‘Be Public’ on Facebook, The New York Times.

The Conservative Case for Hillary Clinton, Texas Monthly.

Choosing a School for My Daughter in a Segregated City, The New York Times. This writer came in and talked to a group of us at BuzzFeed about her incredible article on school segregation (an absolute must-read) and briefly mentioned how much she and her husband were struggling with this, so I was really pleased to read about what they ultimately chose.

A journalist went to a Donald Trump rally yesterday and came back shocked. Here are his tweets, Political Scrapbook. Trigger warning for…garbage people.

Why ‘Transcending Race’ Is a Lie, The New York Times. I loved this. 

An Open Letter to the Female Hat-Wearing Dog From “Go Dog, Go”, The Ugly Volvo.

Thinking About Hillary, Michael Arnovitz on Medium. This is excellent. 

Stop. Using. Periods. Period., The Washington Post.

My Heart Belongs to ‘Daddy’, NY Mag. 

How to Cover Donald Trump Fairly: A Style Guide, Washington Post.

Maybe the word “rapist” is a problem: The utility of nouns and verbs, or accepting who we are and what we do, Salon. I…did not expect this to be as good as it was.

Hi America, British Politics Went Completely Mad Today, BuzzFeed.

Meet Tumblr’s 15-Year-Old Secret Keeper, The New York Times.

I also finally started reading The Empathy Exams this week! 

Entertained by

O.J.: Made in America (seriously, watch it!), the new season of Orange is the New Black, my coworker Sylvia on Another Round (episode #59), and This amazing Father’s Day twitter thread.

The week ahead…

Heading to a wedding!

The week in review

June 12, 2016

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Hey, y’all. Here’s what I got up to this week…

Writing

10 Life-Changing Things To Try In June

Wedding Etiquette Every Grown-Ass Adult Should Know

Reading

Reefer Momness, GQ. One of my favorite things from this week.

Princess for a Day, Disney Bride for Life, Racked. I knew this would be good, but it was even better than I expected.

Men See Themselves In Brock Turner—That’s Why They Don’t Condemn Him, The Establishment.

High School Grads Are Coming Out As Undocumented In Revolt Against Trump, BuzzFeed. Got a littttle weepy reading this.

Are You a “Toxin Handler” at Work?, Focus at Will.

At Profiles Theatre the drama—and abuse—is real, Chicago Reader.

Math: An Illustrated Guide, The New Yorker. I laughed out loud at this for like 10 minutes straight.

Oklahoma’s Department of Health is Now Required by Law to Promote an ‘Abortion-free Society’, Gawker.

What Happened to the Girl Behind ‘White Girl Problems’?, Jezebel.

14 Etsy Buys to Fool People Into Thinking You’ve Seen ‘Hamilton’, Racked.

The Case for Separate Blankets, GQ. This is really funny.

Unreal’s Costume Designer on Where She Gets All Those Gowns, Racked.

How Donald Trump Bankrupted His Atlantic City Casinos, but Still Earned Millions, The New York Times.

What the Stanford sex offender’s loved ones said to keep him out of prison, The Washington Post. Rage-inducing.

A True Conversation I Had With My Very Woke Baby After Hillary Clinton’s Historic Win, Jezebel.

Tea, Pride, Mystery: For One Family That Fled The Nazis, A Tin Canister Held It All, NPR.

Bible Verses Where “Behold” Is Replaced With “Look, Buddy”, The Toast.

The Biggest YouTube Beauty Secret Has Nothing To Do With Makeup, Racked.

This Tweet about HRC and this one on rape culture.

This poem.

The week ahead…

Same shit, new week.

The week in review

June 5, 2016

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Sup, fam? Here’s what I had going on this week…

Writing

WTF Is A Bullet Journal And Why Should You Start One? An Explainer. FINALLY! It’s here, it’s here!

Here’s A Free Coloring Book For When You Just Can’t With Wedding Planning

Reading

Here Is The Powerful Letter The Stanford Victim Read Aloud To Her Attacker, BuzzFeed. If you only read one thing this week, please make it this. It is one of the most powerful and moving things I have ever read. I cannot imagine what it must have been like for this woman to stand up and speak these words out loud in court. Read it and share it wide.

Hillary Clinton’s Campaign Was Never Going to Be Easy. But Did It Have to Get This Hard?, New York Magazine. If you only read two things this week, this should definitely be the next thing on your list. I voted for Hillary, but I still found this article gave me a new perspective on her.

A Renegade Muscles In on Mister Softee’s Turf, The New York Times. THIS IS SO GOOD.

The Outsized Life of Muhammad Ali, The New Yorker.

Like A Prayer: Is Social Justice The New Campus Religion?, MTV.com.

The Fermi Paradox, Wait But Why. I couldn’t sleep on Thursday night, so I stayed up reading this instead. 

Life with Type 1 Diabetes: Finding My New “Normal” + Embracing a New Chapter, Design*Sponge. God damn.

Baylor Is Full Of Shit, Deadspin.

Why Do Men Take So Long to Put on Their Shoes?, New York Magazine.

Our Final Answer on ‘Too Many Women’, Stuff You Missed in History Class. This is excellent.

Kim Kardashian’s Booming Emoji Business, Business Insider. 

Ta-Nehisi Coates on Dylann Roof and the Death Penalty, The Atlantic.

“I Know Providers Who Are Stockpiling Supplies”, Glamour.

The Death of the Great American Sporting Goods Store, Racked.

This is what it’s like to grow up in the age of likes, lols and longing, The Washington Post.

The Way We Buy Beauty Now, Racked.

The week ahead…

Oh, just kicking ass like STICKFIGHTER.

The week in review

May 30, 2016

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Hey, folks! Since we last spoke, here’s what I’ve been up to…

– Attended the National Stationery Show for the the first time. For those of you who saw my Snapchat story from that day, you know that I had a pretty awesome time. It was seriously a blast. The only downside was that 1) you can’t actually BUY stuff (actually that was probably good for my bank account) and 2) I was not prepared for how huge it was or how tiring it would be. The biggest thing that fucked me up was the crazy lighting in all of the different booths. It was incredibly bright/intense/blinding. At one point, around 3:00 in the afternoon, I just sort of flopped down at the very large American Crafts booth (the people basically responsible for 99 percent of the stuff at Michaels)…but then got treated to a super-cool demonstration of the Minc foil machine, which revived me! I pushed through and finished out the day (which meant I could get my portrait painted by the fabulous Kate of Idlewild & Co).

– The same day I attended the NSS, I spoke on a panel about lifestyle in the Internet age that Racked put on. It was so great! I loved getting to talk about some of my favorite meta topics with a bunch of incredibly smart and thoughtful people.

– The next morning, I flew home to Michigan to see my brother Preston play Young Josh in the Flint Community Players’ production of Big the Musical. (My mom was in the chorus too.) While I was there, I went to Panera (obviously), visited my favorite antique store (Main Street Antiques in Holly), went to the confusingly-named Christmas Tree Shops and That! (which is the the mommest store that ever mommed), went on a field trip to Crossroads Village with my mom and her kindergarteners, hung out with my college friend Paul, and had my grandma teach me how to cross-stitch. Then that Sunday, I drove my car back from MI to NYC so now I have my car here in the city!

Here’s what else I’ve had going on…

Reading

The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake by Aimee Bender, which was…odd? The concept is great and I liked some passages a lot but as a whole, I just didn’t love it. 

How Blac Chyna Beat The Kardashians At Their Own Game, BuzzFeed. I had intentionally been avoiding anything related to this story, but this essay changed all that. It’s SO good.

The stark difference between millennial men and their dads, The Washington Post. Toxic masculinity, y’all.

The Clique Imaginary, The New Inquiry. “Women who orient their social lives around a select group are held in distrust, as if women’s duty is to cast their friendship nets widely and superficially. The expectation that they do so signals that a woman’s social life is not considered her own: it must be arranged for the benefit of the family, of strangers, anyone really besides herself.”

I Know Why Poor Whites Chant Trump, Trump, Trump, The Establishment. This is a long read but it’s absolutely worth it.

How the Slave Trade Built America, The New York Times.

The Fierce Triumph of Loneliness, Catapult.

So Apparently There Are 4 Kinds of Introversion, New York Magazine.

On the Heartbreaking Difficulty of Getting Rid of Books, Literary Hub.

The Maturation of a White Ally, White Awake.

How To Slay Trolls And Influence People, BuzzFeed.

Are Mis-Gendered Band Names ‘Ironic’ Or Sexist?, The Establishment.

The Dangerous Acceptance of Donald Trump, The New Yorker.

America Has Never Been So Ripe for Tyranny, New York Magazine.

They’re Called Panties, Cosmopolitan. YES, THANK YOU.

Many Middle-Class Americans Are Living Paycheck to Paycheck, The Atlantic. This is GREAT.

Stop Telling Women To ‘Stay Hot’ For Their Husbands, The Establishment. “It’s no secret that women are published less often and make less money than male writers. Yet there’s always an outlet eager to throw a bit of cash at any woman willing to bang out some ‘[whatever outrageous thing I choose to do this week] works for me, so let’s make a huge logical leap and pretend this is true for and about the female half of the population’ confessional essay. According to another freelancer who prefers not to out herself to a potential editor, Your Tango solicits articles from a large pool of bloggers by sending out emails chock full of potential headlines and topics. Some recent prompts have included, ‘I dumbed myself down to see if it attracts guys more,’ ‘I abstained from having sex with my husband as punishment,’ and ‘I’m only attracted to ugly women.'” This became even more relevant when it turned out that none other than the “Stay Hot” author was behind the xoJane debacle that went down later that week.

Deonte Hoard Was The 53rd Of 489 Homicide Victims In Chicago Last Year, BuzzFeed.

Filets In First, Gruel In Third: What Class Differences Looked Like On The Titanic, All Day.

How Rona Barrett Became The Gossip Industry’s Forgotten Trailblazer, BuzzFeed.

In Victorian Society, Tuberculosis Was For Hotties, Jezebel.

Hillary Clinton says Bill won’t be picking out the White House china. He should., The Washington Post. You’re DAMN RIGHT HE SHOULD. Christ.

The Magic of MirMir, the Kardashians’ Favorite Photo Booth, Racked. Fascinating. (Also extra interesting because it seems like similar technology is involved with Snapchat’s beauty filter.)

Actress Roundtable: Jennifer Lopez, Kerry Washington, A-Listers on Nudity, Network Fights and the “Diva” Label, The Hollywood Reporter. This is awesome. (Be sure to watch the videos too.)

The value of diversity: Could you do your job without getting paid?, Media Diversified.

Getting Angry Makes Almost Everything Worse, Deadspin.

Grand Unified Theory of Female Pain, VQR.

The Hunt For Poland’s Buried Nazi Gold Trains, BuzzFeed.

And the peer review of the SB Nation failure that was their Daniel Hotzclaw story. (Report here.) Every media org should be paying very close attention to what went wrong here.

Loving

This Twitter thread, Season 2 of You’re the Worst (I wept during the last two episodes), and this video.

The week ahead…

Breaking out my summer whites!

The week in review

May 15, 2016

By Adam Ellis for BuzzFeed

Art by Adam Ellis, based on my request. (Look at my haiiiiiir!!!!!) Also: here are some comments from a guy explaining to women that this comic is probably not about sexism, and “if you think this comic is about misogyny you’re just projecting your personal biasses and insecurities into your interpretation.” He’d also like you to know that “your attitude borders on misandry and it’s especially ironic considering I’m feminist as I already told you.”

Here’s more of what I was looking at when I was checking my phone this week…

Writing

12 Things I Learned After Losing 80 Pounds & Keeping It Off For 13 Years — the post I wrote for BuzzFeed’s Body Positivity Week!

Reading

This wee,  I got about 60 percent done with Pretty Monsters by Kelly Link and read Through the Woods by Emily Carroll, which is sad and creepy and dark. (Both are, actually, and both happen to be YA.)

Also…

More Body Positivity Week goodness: I Promise You Don’t Have To Lose Weight To Be Happy,, 9 Bodies I’ve Had, Confessions Of A Former Former Fat Kid, You Deserve Love, Even If You Don’t Like Your Body, Getting Half A Boob Job Helped Me Love My Whole Self.

Inside Superstar Machine, Which Ex-Members Say Is a Cult Preying on New York’s Creative Women, Jezebel. Oh…my god. Read the whole thing. Then read the comments.

Two gems from Lindy West in The Guardian: Break the period taboo: my name is Lindy West and I bleed, and The ‘perfect body’ is a lie. I believed it for a long time and let it shrink my life. Can’t wait to read her book this week!

Everything That’s Wrong Of Raccoons, The Toast. I laughed so hard through this entire thing. (Also: Everything What’s Wrong Of Possums: It’s All Of Them.)

My Friends Would Rather Have Their Guts Cut Open Than Be Like Me, The Establishment.

On Homecomings, The Atlantic.

Unearthing the Secrets of New York’s Mass Graves, The New York Times.

Does Your Daughter Know It’s OK To Be Angry?, Role Reboot.

Put your kids to bed early to make them smarter, happier, and fitter., Slate. Put yourself to bed early too!!!

Crossing the Line: How Donald Trump Behaved With Women in Private, The New York Times. Gross.

Why your Facebook feed is filled with women selling essential oils and press-on nails, Vox.

How To Make The Best Chocolate Chip Cookies Ever, BuzzFeed. Do yourself a favor and make “The Ultimate.” They. Are. INCREDIBLE.

bell hooks and the Sour ‘Lemonade’ Review, Ebony.

Howard Stern, Donald Trump, My Dad: Lessons in How Men Talk About Women, NY Mag.

A Couple in Chicago, The New Yorker.

Poor People Deserve To Taste Something Other Than Shame, The Establishment.

Gender reveal celebrations for babies help explain transphobia., Slate.

Think Pieces About MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE And How I Could Possibly Be Wrong, Eschaton.

The goddamn New York Times.

Loving

This tweet, this onethis kid’s dancing, and emo Smash Mouth.

The week ahead…

Spending a few days at home in Michigan!

The week in review

May 8, 2016

Hey, fam! Here’s what I’ve been up to this week…

Writing

10 Life-Changing Things To Try In May

Reading

This week I went on kind of a tear and read Damned by Chuck Palahniuk (the second half is better than the first and there are a lot of good lines, but as a whole, it was a miss for me), What in God’s Name by Simon Rich (a light and tight little rom com of a book), and Get in Trouble: Stories by Kelly Link (an utterly weird book that I haven’t made my mind up about yet — you can read the first story from the collection here). I’ve also been reading The Principles of Uncertainty by Maira Kalman; it’s a lovely illustrated book that I’m treating like a bedtime story and therefore only reading before bed each night. 

Other reading material from this week…

Emotional Labor: What It Is and How To Do It, The Orbit. One of the best things I’ve read in a LONG time.

The Secret To Life Is Showering While You’re Still Drunk, BuzzFeed.

Very Important Alert: Best Instagram Account Ever Goes to @Jooleeloren, Man Repeller.

When Everything Is Bullying, Nothing Is Bullying, Jezebel. This is really good, as is this post in The Atlantic and this New York Times Magazine piece it links out to.

The White Wall Controversy: How the All-White Aesthetic Has Affected Design, Design*Sponge.

Obituaries My Mother Wrote for Me While I Was Living in San Francisco in My Twenties, The New Yorker. This spoke to me.

12 Innocuous Household Items My Son has Turned Into Weapons, The Ugly Volvo.

I Was Catfished By ABC’s What Would You Do?, Adequate Man / Deadspin. JFC.

Now That I’m Getting Older, I Forget Things, The New Yorker. This is delightfully deranged.

Publishing, Weight, and Writers Who Are “Hard To Look At”, The Toast.

17 Phone Wallpapers That’ll Stop You From Texting That One Person, BuzzFeed. HOE DON’T DO IT.

The Forced Heroism of the ‘Survivor’, The New York Times Magazine.

Why You Can’t Trust Yourself, Mark Manson.

ESPN’s Eight-Hour O.J. Documentary Is a Masterpiece, NY Mag. SO pumped to watch this!

Empowerment, Body Positivity and the Internet, Beauty Redefined.

Allrecipes reveals the enormous gap between foodie culture and what Americans actually cook., Slate.

Cheer Up! The Vulnerable, Weeping Man Is Back in Style, Jezebel.

Women Enjoying Heterosexual Kisses In Western Art History, The Toast.

Enjoying

This Vine (watch with sound!), this tweet (please also watch with sound) and this series of images (I LOLd).

The week ahead…

About the same as this week: a lot of reading, a lot of writing, and lot of checking my weather app wondering what the fuck is happening. The usual!

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