This week I hung out with Marie Kondo, bought some spring goodies at Flying Tiger, did one yoga session and one happy hour, got my hands (and the floor) dirty playing with plants, ate mint fro-yo and carbonara, spent too much time on Snapchat, and read a bunch of shit on the Internet. You know, the usual! Here are some other highlights…
This weekend, I read American Housewife, which my rad coworker Kaye recommended. It’s a quick read — I finished it in a couple hours — and it’s amazingly weird, dark, and funny. So many essays left me saying, “omg.” It’s a fun one that I’ll probably re-read! Definitely recommend.
Other good reading material…
Charlotte Bronte and Her Best Friend’s Broken Promise, Jezebel. I loved this article because I have been thinking a lot lately about the conversations I have with my female friends every day, and how those conversations sort of contain the entirety of our lives in a way that is beautiful and special and also crazy. Now that I’m journaling each day, I’m even more aware of how hard it is to fully capture those thoughts and events and conversations, especially when you’ve already been over them with your friends in a group chat. It makes me kind of sad to think that Also…who among us doesn’t have a collection of sad, desperate letters (emails/texts/etc.) that resemble Charlotte Bronte’s to Constantin Héger? Anyway, I read this and then texted Dallas, “If I die, you have permission to publish everything (that makes me look good).”
Hey Tech Support, America’s Loading Slow, Awesomely Luvvie. “Maybe there’s a compatibility issue with the last software installed.” Truuuuue.
Why So Many Thirtysomething Women Are Leaving Your Company, Harvard Business Review and One Weird Trick for Keeping Female Employees From Quitting, New York Magazine. Both of these were being shared by basically every woman I know this week.
I Pay My Own Wages For Housework, BuzzFeed.
The Patronizing Questions We Ask Women Who Write, New York Magazine. “We don’t ask male artists to consider the consequences of their work, we don’t reframe them as fathers or boyfriends or sons. We don’t keep trying to pull them back down to earth, to admonish them, the way we do women. We not only give them the benefit of the doubt — assuming they’ve done their own calculus as to how much is worth what, whom they’re willing to betray or embarrass or make uncomfortable and why — we operate as if their work is worth all that. There is a confidence, an assertion of self required in writing that we so often confuse with recklessness, but isn’t necessarily the same thing. I can be ruthless, daring, even ‘crazy’ in my writing and deliberate and thoughtful in the choices I make with it later; to doubt that is insulting, but I’m not surprised it makes people uncomfortable.” PRETTY MUCH.
What’s Really Behind Our Obsession Over Unmasking Elena Ferrante?, Jezebel. I love that Elena Ferrante is anonymous and every time I read about someone trying to doxx her, I get very “LEAVE ELENA ALONE.”
The Last Lifestyle Magazine, Racked. “Lifestyle magazines are treated as light fare, but they fulfill the deeper purpose of helping us define ourselves.” While I think this article definitely has some areas where I think it was a little lazy, I LOVE any exploration of what ~lifestyle media~ really means and where it fits into our culture, and this is overall just really smart and interesting.
J.K. Rowling’s History of Magic in North America Was a Travesty From Start to Finish, io9. No, but really, it is. I read it this week and it’s just…bad.
23 Of Rogelio’s Most Hilarious Quotes On “Jane The Virgin”, BuzzFeed. God, I love him!
Out Here, No One Can Hear You Scream: The dangerous culture of male entitlement and sexual hostility hiding within America’s national parks and forests., The Highline.
Inside the elite, super-secret world of L.A.’s coolest girls on Facebook, Fusion.
18 Hilarious Tweets About What Life Will Be Like Under President Trump, BuzzFeed.
Debunking the imagery of the “Irish slaves” meme, Liam Hogan on Medium.
Why You Need to Start a Sexting Group Chat With Your Best Friends TODAY, ELLE. I was super skeptical of this hed, but I thoroughly enjoyed the essay and I love the author’s voice; I added her book to my wish list after reading. I also read this essay of hers this week.
America’s Whites-Only Weed Boom, BuzzFeed. My favorite comment (not really) is the one that accuses BuzzFeed of being part of the “war on whites.” But seriously, read this article.
Abortion Wasn’t Part of My Birth Plan, Vogue.
11 Differences That Would Happen If All Men Had Periods, BuzzFeed.
‘Old but not cold’: Four very longtime friends anticipate turning 100 this year, The Washington Post. Black Girl Magic, y’all.
America Needs ‘Y’all’, The Atlantic.
25 Trump Supporters Say What Would Happen If Trump Doesn’t Win, BuzzFeed.
26 Struggles Of Being The Token Black Girl, BuzzFeed. Word.
Tactful Ways People Have Told Me That They’re in a Relationship, The New Yorker.
The Return Of The Prodigal Son, In Order Of Prodigalness, The Toast.
Emoji Feminism, The New York Times.
Actual Adult Friend Finder, The New Yorker.
36 Oral Sex Tips That Are Actually Awesome, BuzzFeed. Casey is the queen of choosing the perfect photos for her posts and this one is no exception. Also, these tips are hilarious/legit.
This poem, this spot-on parody, this pink spring coat, and Ira’s fire tweet.
The week ahead…
Just living my best life like this lil fox.